A woman of today strives for independence yet wants to be treated like a princess.  A man is expected to respect a woman's desire to be treated as an equal, yet we are likewise expected to treat a woman like a princess.  You can't be a princess if we are not your prince.  To be a woman's prince a man needs to be treated like one.  It is a conundrum because in modern love women no longer have any desire or need to please a man.  It is now entirely about pleasing a woman and men are deftly aware of this change.  Most importantly, we've accepted it thus leaving the field empty with few princess to go around.   Women see this as too many princesses and not enough princess, when in reality there is a prince for every woman -- they are merely being minimized and adulterated by the politics of modern love.

Women are consumed with what other women think when in fact all they really need to care about is what the one man the intend to love thinks.  After all, you'll spend the rest of your life with him, not with people you hardly know.  A woman fights hard to be recognized for her brains, not her beauty but nature programed us to be attracted physically, you know it (women), we know it (men).  It is why it's called 'animal attraction'.  A woman now fights her instincts to be 'protected' and 'loved'.  She has traded the value of love for those virtues.  Men don't see a woman who can self-sustain as a virtue.  We know the reality is we must then out-earn you to be worthy of your respect.  We must accomplish more than you in order to be worthy.  Women may reject this statement as an insult, but ...    more »

Holy crap my Newsvine article this week cracked 100 comments!

http://larshindsley.newsvine.com/_news/2009/04/23/2724209-did-perez-hilton-discriminate
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The other me is the guy no one sees. The other me is the guy I refuse to let anyone know.  The other me would not be caught dead thinking like this.  The other me knows more than can ever be let on.  The other me is the one every woman would want to know but is afraid to know.  The other me is just as secure as this one.  The other me knows that at one point both me's will converge.    more »

Integrity is when we work hard not to be a hypocrite.

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I'd like to send this song dedication out to someone I've been seeing.  She knows who she is.  This is a song near and dear to my heart as I've seen so many women in my life turning pennies into gold.  I hate to say I'm right when I'm right.  I generally just keep what I know to myself.   It's not like me to take a shot at anyone but frankly sometimes you have to let people know their days are numbered.  Some people have a smug look and are too self-consumed to take heed of what they are told.  So be warned the lyrics to Temporary Beauty are gentle devastation.  "Even though it may be love.."  is a statement sang as a question.  The manner in which it is sung is also quite compelling. Of course you need to understand love to appreciate a song of such as this, even when it's one as unlikely as this one.

Temporary Beauty speaks on many levels.  To the woman that doesn't understand that outer beauty is fleeting and that what you do have won't last, and go even faster if you don't take care of it.  I for one look for beauty on the inside, which if I ever fall in love again will be with a woman that has long lasting beauty on the inside.  Enjoy the tune and lyrics. I'm off to my next date...  (my afterthoughts are below).



You have to do your best to come up to par, from straight off the production line like a car.
Till everything you put on is a put-on, and you don't know who's face you're gazing upon.
Could be anyone you're sending out there tonight, and is it any wonder all of the lights are too bright?
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There is nothing like having been a part of anyone's life and looking back knowing you are printed in their history.  People make such a big deal of memories haunting them, how often do we realize that memories are a good thing.  When my brother died, I had one thought in mind.  To remember him.  No one is ever gone, no one is ever dead until you forget them.  Here's to memories.  
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Happiness is the highest good, being a realization and perfect practice of virtue, which some can attain, while others have little or none of it...

-Aristotle
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Men and women are different.  Our maker saw to that on many levels.   Is it a great accomplishment for a woman to make a man compromise his values for sex?
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One difference between you and I, your heart is inside your head
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There are four types of types of personalities.  The Driver, The Feeler, The Elitist and Thinker.  Which are you?

The answer? It is not what you think.  It is what others think.  While you may believe you are a feeler, you may be more forceful than you know and others see you as the Driver.  In the end, we are not what we think we are, we are what what others think we are.

Look in the mirror.  Do you recognize someone?
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I believe we are all in a race against time, and we don't realize it until the consequences of time become obvious.  Our 'not now' attitude always costs us.  On an individual level, I think of how the years of a life quietly flick away.  There is no real 'ticking' of time to remind you that the time of your life is eroding, instead it creeps up on you soporifically.   It seems only after we make the wrong choices in life either as a society or in our personal lives that we realize that second chances come at a horrible cost.  To marry the wrong person in your twenties and divorce at 30?, well, you come to realize that you can't give the age of 22 or 25 to anyone else ever again.  The time you regret spending with the wrong person has cost you.  Then there is our society.  We should already be using electric cars or some other form of alternative energy to propel our automobiles.  Instead, the cost of gas has come down and once again the ebb and flow of need verses desire takes it's toll.  The cost of our 'not now' attitude on a whole has resulted in our own economy being rocked.  Yes, the banking industry is also culpable in not looking to the future.  Many bankers unknowingly played the race against time game correctly.  They bled the sacred cow for all they could get and walked away with a bundle of cash when time ran out.

Every one of us has only so many years we can live a certain way during the course of our lives.   You can't play football at the age of 80, let alone 60.   Sex may be enjoyable at 70, but you better have a partner established as ...   more »

If you know me, you know that at this time in my life, I've lost a lot, but for  all I've lost, I've gained mental toughness.

As a single man that was once married for 8 years and never thought he'd be single again -- I have found that on occasion I tell this story to girls, ladies, women I meet and date.  It occurred to me that if I share it with you readers today, perhaps I can offer you some personal strength.  What I'm about to tell you is dead honest.  It really did happen. 

Somewhere in my second year of marriage I realized I was a great husband.  Why?  Because I was so damn proud to be with the woman I loved. Superman had nothing on me and I reminded myself that if I didn't take care of my wife, some other guy would be more than willing.  Why?  Well for starters the woman was drop dead gorgeous.  Secondly she was smart as a whip.   I somehow forgot she was worldly wise to the point she was cold hearted.  But the way I saw it, she was on my team. We were married.  A team.  She was the type of person you loved on your team, but would be disgusted to know if she was your adversary.  You know why, when someone is on the other team you don't need to overlook flaws or make excuses.  You can be truly objective. 

So here I am in love and happy. I'm cooking her breakfast in bed twice a month.  When she wanted to sleep in on Saturday's because she worked all week (never mind I did too), I got up with the kids and made breakfast (hence she got breakfast in bed often). When she was sick with a cold, she didn't have to ask for me to bring in a butler tray with goodies.  I knew to do it.  I loved her. This of course was my wife.  I was a lucky man to have someone I could count on for the rest of my life.  Yes, make fun of me, I was naive.  Sue me.

But then one day she wiped that smile off my face. 

As I mentioned at the start, somewhere around our second year of marriage I realized I was the husband I always knew I wanted to be.  Flowers for her were common.  Once I sent her an $180.00 arrangement of flowers  which required a van to deliver at her work.  Including the vase it stood four feet.  Someone did a remarkable job on it.  I should have taken a picture of it.   But the day I ventured into the flower shop and saw it -- I thought, "My woman deserves this."  I did it as a life experience for her.  I thought she should at least once receive an ostentatious arrangement that just blew her away. 

About a month later the weather fully broke and I took ill with a cold.  Not just a cold but    more »

They say that every time a mission bell rings somewhere up above us all an angel gets his wings
Now they're falling from the skies

Watch, a mother raise her son and see him grow, then catch a passing star and leave her standing on her own
But her love can never die!
If this is true then I wanna know why?

If all is fair in love and war but no-one wins.
Or every second someone dies and someones life begins...
Then I wonder which is truer?

They say that if you're young at heart you can't grow old
And youth cannot be bought with what you jingle or you fold
Are we rich or are we poor?
I still don't know and I want to be sure.

Of all the things we know and don't, and can't decide.
The truth cannot be bought with what we gamble or divide
Neither can it be denied
And if this is true then I want to know why?

I wont be here when you get home; to waltz into my arms
When all our willing sins have been gone, the worst of all is ignorance -- and missing your chance.
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This is a fan made Batman video; Dead End.  From it the director landed a low budget full feature sci-fi to be released this year named, Hunter Prey.  Check out this short.  Nicely done on no budget.  Hunter Prey has no release date despite being finished.  It may go straight to video. 


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It's a problem we all live with.  We end up with the wrong people.  I think in America and perhaps the some other parts of the world, people have this problem of 'settling'.  To put it bluntly, settling for second best. 

Women look for prince charming, men look for a damsel in distress.  The fairy tale finish we all journey towards.   Then along the way we realize that it's tougher than we imagined, to find the right person.   And even if you do find the right person, chances are the person that found you may decide they settled for second best.  How do we all fit the right people together?  I can't answer that question. I am but one man with my own journey to travel.

I can say that I see more and more people with broken lives that find themselves with less time in their life to find the right person because along the way they didn't take the journey serious enough.  While I believe in flaunting the imperfection and that perfection is your enemy, there is one thing you can't deny.  Love requires perfection in a mate.  If you are not with the right person, your life comes undone.  From your family and friends to your self-respect.  You can find yourself in a crowd but all alone.  You find yourself with someone you are supposed to care about but instead you silently think to yourself, "I don't want to be alone, but I don't want to be with you."

I want to tell those people, you have what you deserve.  You should never have settled.   But I can't say that.  There are too many of them.  It seems everyone has committed this sin.  From high-school sweethearts to Hollywood power couples.  People don't stay together anymore. They find ...   more »

There is something we all love about surprises that warm our hearts.  We all love an underdog, but better yet we love to see the common man's dreams come true. In this case, a woman.

I implore you to follow this YouTube Link and experience the story of Susan Boyle as it unfolds. 

"No one is laughing now." 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9lp0IWv8QZY


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Welcome to my niche. Another Lousy Day In Paradise is my own little writing block aside from the publications, the stories and my everyday life.  It's a place where I could attack the world but choose not to.  Locally, here in Delaware I live a humble life with my two sons Declan and Dalton.  I find myself constantly interrupted by them and reminding myself that when I was a boy, I never wanted my parents to look over their shoulder and say, "That's nice." Instead I wanted to know I was important to my parents.  So despite my interest in being my own person, I'm ultimately subservient to my deep desire to never let my children down.  I write many stories and articles that are brought about because of the life I live for my boys.  And yes, when my boys interrupt me, I turn to them and give them my attention.

I of course write of the things I experience which do not include the boys.  After all, I am a person with his own hopes and dreams. I've watched kids of my youth fail in their adult lives.  I've seen high-school sweethearts change into women I hardly know. I've seen the road to my old high school turn from a journey of a single stop sign to one interrupted by 6 stop-lights. I've watched my family ebb and flow.   I've buried my older brother, never thinking it possible that such a Herculean spirit would pass before me.  Standing over his grave I saw every instance of our lives pass before me.  I've known the joy of life long best friends.  I've watched my own parents grow into old age as they have been married well over ...    more »

I'm a conservative.  I'm amazed how the world thinks of anyone that gives a damn about what they put in their body is a liberal.  Granted, it cost money to be safe, it cost money to make our food safe.  What blows me away is the same people controlling our food supply are eating it too!  How do we penetrate this insanity and get on track.  It is when we have all this talk of  the ever so sexy media story Global Warming  that makes it impossible to have independent discussions such as how we as a country and world community can slow down our fast growth mentality enough to consider the implications of our behavior. By the way, does anyone remember global cooling? This was big in the 1970's, even TIME Magazine was behind this theory.   I'm not oversimplifying.  I'm illustrating a point. Use your brain.  No one is really looking out for you, but you.

We never care until it affects us.  OK, if that is true, then see Food, Inc this summer when it comes out.  And so you keep it in mind... visit the website http://www.takepart.com/foodinc/ Which is rich in information on how you can make a difference.  Let's hope you give a shit.  If not about yourself, about your children. While I'm not of the school that 'everything is dangerous', I do believe that ...    more »

In an effort to get you to buy this CD/Album...  and because I really dig this song, here again a double shot of  Shiny Toy Guns. 

I Owe You Love Song and Season of Love


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Life Experiences: The Jumbo Slice of Pizza - Adams Morgan section of Washington DC

Some life experiences you learn about then decide to go do it.  Others your stumble upon.  This one I stumbled upon as a date took me to the Adams Morgan section of Washington DC.  I wouldn't say I was outside my comfort zone as I've been to DC many times, much of it to the surrounding areas of Georgetown, but I had not been to the Adams Morgan section before.   The Adams Morgan strip is a blip on the map, and just north of Georgetown.  We hung out on 18th street just off a square.  There was your Starbucks, your basement level biker heaven bar, eclectic cultural shops and a multitude of eating establishments.  There was even a wood fired brick oven pizza shop; but we opted for what the locals seem to worship, The Jumbo Pizza slice.  There were two shops.  We stopped at Jumbo Slice for our slices.  There is also a place two doors down called, Pizza Mart that has copied the jumbo slice.  My date told me the slices where 'big'.  It didn't register in my mind at all what she was speaking of. We walked into this hole in the wall pizza shop that had no pictures or actual pizza on display.  A small counter an not much more.   Innocently enough I ponied up to the counter and after she asked for slice of just cheese, I thought I'd do as the Roman's do and opted for a slice of cheese, no pepperoni.  We decided to split a bottle of water and pulled cash from my sack.  "That will be $10.50."   I was puzzled, but not surprised.  After all this is Washington D.C., "Why not overcharge?"    more »

When I first caught wind of The Song of Sparrows I was intrigued but what I thought would be stunning cinematography but quickly noticed the still photos were saturated and vivid by comparison to the washed out grade of film.  No matter, the easy going story and pacing had a throwback feel where as a film goer, you realize a picture really does say a thousand words.  Despite the film grade, the story still draws you in as it relies heavily on communication through the unspoken word. The Song of Sparrows was originally released in 2008 in its homeland by Iranian director Majid Majidi; Spoken in Persian with English subtitles. 

I find it amazing when we tell stories that draw us in and they don't include bombs, murder, or epic plots.  The beauty of The Song of Sparrows is in its serenity.  A story becomes most real when all you have are the human elements.   Centering around one man Karim and his family it is a journey through values. My only question is that in Iran, the current regime has extreme rules in film making and censorship is a filmmakers enemy when attempting to write any story of substance.  While the ultra conservative values of the Iranian government can be beneficial to benevolent stories, it also means that families with loving husbands and wives for example are forced.   We as western viewers may admire the love and patience the character Karim shows for his wife, but is it really an honest portrayal of how most Iranian couples interact?
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Jam it up!


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The world is a tough place.   Today's world is very complicated to survive in.   Relationships of every sort are no longer a simple road to travel.  We survivors are faced with adversaries whom suffer from an anemia of character.

On occasion we all come up against a recalcitrant character. 

In general I consider people obstacles.  Someone I merely go over, around, under or through. There is no emotional involvement in my decision making.  But there are times I realize that if I've been able to successfully navigate the waters of my forced relationships, why not share with others how to not only cope -- but to deal with such a person with ease.

First you need to understand the mind of such a person.  They come in all types but no matter what they are, the dominant trait is selfishness to the point of no moral compass.  A person such as this has but one weapon in their arsenal.  Deny and attack.  

You can catch such a person in the act of doing wrong and they will still deny they are guilty of any wrong doing and then attack you. I call this blame shifting.  Need an example?  Let's say you were to walk in on them while they are having an affair.  When I say walk in, I mean you catch them in bed having sex with another person.  Now of course you are standing there righteous in the moment.  What does this person do?  Yes, the deny and attack.  They say, "It's your fault."  You can fill in the rest with whatever excuse they want to offer but the key words are they blamed you. For example, <sarcasm> if only you were a better person then they would not have cheated on you! </sarcasm>

I picked the example above as I needed to make clear of just how badly you can catch a person treating you and to them, they will never take ownership of their actions.  You cannot win.  Imagine if you were forced to be in the company of someone like this for many years. 

There is a secondary part to this.  It is called Plausible Deniability.   People need ...    more »

I've been taking some heat since this last week when I accidentally posted a dairy entry public for a few hours.

The question is was I ever in love if I'm so broken now?  After all, if I was played for a fool and used in my marriage, then what right did I have being in love?  Perception is everything, reality is nothing, hence the paradox turns on itself.  Perception becomes your reality. 

Was it ever real?  It was real for me. And that is why I'm broken. I've spent a lot of time living with that reality.  Living with knowing that I was in love with a phantom, something not real is a hard pill to swallow.  I spend time beating myself up over not seeing the truth when it was right before my eyes. The people around me may see a fool.  And I'd laugh at me too.  But it was real for me.

Now I spend a lot of time living a much smarter life.  Every woman I cross paths with is examined deeply.  And in time, I find the truth.  I no longer jump into any affair with cloudy eyes.  Don't get me wrong, I can speak of love and romance, but my heart no longer guides my head.  It can take days, weeks or months, but I wait now.  My instinct dials me in the right direction, then in time the answer shows itself.  I learn why she is divorced, I learn why she's still single at 29, I learn why she moved, I learn that she isn't really a vet tech, or I learn why she says trust is soooo important (because she herself cheats, lol), ...I learn what my instinct usually warns me of.  If nothing else I learned a great and valuable lesson ...   more »

Since these things only last one day, I thought it would be nice to memorialize Google's April Fool's joke of 2009.  It was based around Artificial Intelligence (A.I.) gone wrong.   If you missed it they rolled out a fictitious service called CADIE, an acronym of course: Cognitive Autoheuristic Distributed-Intelligence Entity.

A what?  Well ...in short think of it as A.I. for your tasks. One feature is/was Autopilot; the auto e-mail responder that does more than reply. I profiles the e-mail sent then replies to the e-mail message based on the content.  Waves of Hal 9000 flood my senses when I think of this.  That is where the joke lies. Imagine a service created by Google that goes horribly wrong.

Here are two sample replies.  The first one  delineates the value of your relationship with the sender and provides them a report, hilarious.  The second is a sample reply based on matching the style of the original message.  Very funny stuff.

There was much more to the CADIE spoof.  But you get the idea.
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