There are many sayings in life.  Some become hackneyed expressions, while others hold deep meaning.   One I've learned years ago has become one that came back to me time and again to teach me a lot about life.  That is the saying, your audience finds you.

I first heard it when I was the front for a local band.  I was making the rounds with radio stations pushing for airplay.  Who I heard it from, I can't remember.  It wasn't something profound when I first heard it.  It was just one of those... "Yeah you're right"  times of acknowledgment.  It could have been a disc jockey, but I think it was a fellow musician or perhaps a guitar tech.  I can't say for sure.  Who ever it was, it started with me explaining our bands sound.  I was defining how I sing, I was explaining we had two guitarists that traded off lead guitar solos and how that gave us more than one flavor.  Someone said to me to assure me that it didn't matter what we sounded like because... our audience would find us.  We didn't have to go find our audience.

Over the years I recall that analysis and observation about how the music industry works.  It applied to business.  Many folks had these crazy ideas for usable web sites, from gaming forums to odds bettors, and even bonsai tree enthusiasts.  I remembered to myself and assured people with their idea, "your audience will find you."

At one point I gave that advice to myself about love.  I realized that I was a unique guy.  I was tough and strong but genuinely sensitive, only I had to get to know you first.  That made it hard for me to get the right woman to strike up immediate interest.  I was ...an acquired taste. :)  I said to myself, "Don' t worry Lars, your audience will find you." I knew that a woman that had similar interests would one day cross my path.   Of course that is why I wrote the song Forced Fate.  Those two words in terms of love mean you can't make a woman love you, but you can put yourself in her path to find you.  You can force fate to some degree. Yeah, I know.  Those two sayings are somewhat paradoxical.  Forcing fate is something I've been at for some time.  I knew I'd never sing in a band if I didn't go after it.  The mind moves towards what it sees.  I knew that if I wanted to play football, I'd have to try while I still had my youth.  I did that very thing at the age of 27.  It was never too late.  And the people that played in my band and played football... were like me.  We had the same outlook on life and the same energy and will to achieve.

In life, your audience will find you.  The people that share common interest find each other.  People that love alike, people that hate alike.  People that have strong family values, people that have no interest in family; the different types of people there are find each other.  Followers follow and leaders lead, but they share characteristics that are alike. 

When we dress it is an expression of our values, our interests and more.   We find ourselves attracted to people that dress in a manner in which we agree.  We find each other based on being alike.  Of course clothes alone don't define a person but it is a starting point.   As we open up to learn about the people we meet we draw closer to those that share our interests.  

To my readers that are building their life's for building their lives again... May your audience find you.

Perhaps my underlying message here is be yourself and those that are like you will like you most for the real you.  No matter what it is.