I don't usually let on that I'm in a relationship because of privacy.  For today, welcome to a bit of privileged information.

I'm in a healthy relationship.  I've kept it under wraps a real long time.  The lady I'm with is giving, she is normal, she is upbeat, content, , has great family values, loves children, makes sacrifices, loyal to a fault and very very smart. She is also divorced.  BUT She doesn't bring any emotional baggage, not one iota.  I can say that as it's been almost a year and I've even met her ex husband and there is no tension. 

All of this is by no accident.  Frankly, I wouldn't tolerate second best.  Flat out.  They say once bitten twice shy.  You never understand it until it is you that is bitten. I've been bitten and I was twice shy.   When I started to date again I ran into a number of types, from women that wanted to cut loose after divorce (wanted to experiment etc...) to women that had their own issues which I saw as bad omens based on what I had FINALLY learned in exiting my own long term ordeal.  I just had no room to be a victim again.  I have no toleration for bullshit is what it comes down to.

And guys (and girls) that is what I'm writing about today.  I was reading a new article at askmen.com today while eating lunch and figured I had to weigh in as I often do.   The article was about "the other man" or "an ex" or "a threat" in general.  But for me I saw it as it applied to my life in my own past.  Before I get to my own diatribe, I do encourage you to read the askmen.com article: Is He A Threat?...   more »