I don't root for but one Philly team.  The Phillies.  And days like this, I think hard on it.

But I never give up on them.   Even when I despise the management and the year after year problem of NO PITCHING.

Today they lost the home opener after having won it.   The head lines... GONE IN A FLASH.   Tom "Flash" Gordon the guy supposed to save the game.... lost the game giving up not one, not two not three but five runs in the ninth.

Whatever.   I'll wear my red hat and pray for hitting again.

I sold cell phones in 1986.  They first hit the streets back then.   They cost as much as $4,600.00 and I sold them to Senators, Hotels and many other important people with deep pockets.  Now cell phone sales reach over 800 million units per year. 

As cell phones came down in price and many people could afford them the use of the "handheld" became a health issue.  The .6 watts of power was the threshold of power a "handheld" could offer as to emit the least amount of "RF" to which could hurt us.

People, if you didn't know it RF (radio frequency) is everywhere.  It is boring through your brain right now.  Every radio transmitter out there is sending waves as you read this. Thousands of different radio waves are bouncing off your head (and body) this instant.

For a long time a strong argument has been made that cell phone radio waves (radiation) emit a strong enough wave to penetrate your skull and somehow cause brain tumors. 

And you may not simply able to get a brain tumor by holding up a cell phone to your head.   Why?  For the same reason I mentioned above, RF is everywhere.  The closer you are to any signal source the more concern you should have.  And here is more... just owning a cell phone can be cause for concern.  They are always transmitting, even when not in conversation although the transmission signal is much much weaker.  Just read this case: http://www.emf-health.com/reports-courtvictory.htm

Here is another point of fact about cell phones that has NEVER changed.   The further you are from a cell phone tower, the stronger the power behind the RF.   The phone knows it has to really work hard to reach further transmitters and this means more power emitted from the unit.   ...   more »

One More Day - PART TWO

Darrin felt his voice, he saw his body but he could not control it.  I saw himself from the outside.  He stood outside himself and watched what he could not change.  This was not at all what he expected.  He recognized the time and the moment with Mellissa, but he could not enter his body.   Was this what the man meant by not being what he expected?

Darrin recognized his own words, “I want one more day to know how much you love me.”   And he was reminded of the situation by Mellissa’s, “Who said I loved you?”

He watched and walked about as that morning wore on.  When he and his wife parted ways at the lunch time hour, Darrin made the obvious choice to follow his wife.  She had told him that she wanted to visit a friends office while he played soccer with his friends in Central Park.

Always wondering what it would be like to be with the one you love when they are not with you, it suddenly gave Darrin an uneasy feeling.  After all, what if she said things against him, or what if she didn’t go to see a friend at work?  And this is just the truth Darrin did not expect or want to learn.

Darrin followed her to a cab when she always asserted her greater understanding for the subway.  Already it seemed he was learning more of his wife than he realized; but he was sure there was a reason.  He didn’t catch the address as he ran up behind her and his ghost like shadow stepped through her into the passenger seat.  Sitting next to her in the cab he noticed she was checking her make-up.  She pulled from her purse a ...   more »

Darrin had a few friends but none he could rely on.  Not because their hearts were cold, it was simply a matter of time.  In this modern world every man and woman has their own problems.    In this modern world life’s challenges consume us, we often look self-absorbed when we have rent to pay, credit cards to pay and our own families relying on us.  Who has time to help a friend move out when it means taking precious time off from work or from our own family?

So it is that Darrin found himself after his divorce sitting alone in his home waiting for the movers he didn’t feel he should have needed to move out the remainder of his memories.  Memories in the form of couches, dressers and small knick-knacks from trips taken with his soon to be ex-wife.    Milling about he found one small kaleidoscope she favored lying behind a dusty cherub they both picked out on a trip to St. Barts.   He recalled the day they sat together on a small topless beach.   She was too shy to take her top off and he knew why.   He kept her secret hidden from everyone.  After all, a woman wasn’t supposed to have that problem. But he accepted her faults and all.   In their discomfort, they both walked the small seaside village where on one back street they found a hole in the wall store named, Blessings.  On an obscure rack lay a number of small cherubs, each with a promise to which they'd fullfill if you owned them.  Darrin and Mellissa admired them all.  Right next to the one promising answers was one for fertility.  It was there they found the cherub that was supposed to bring good fortune to those seeking to have a baby.  That day never came.

http://www.reuters.com/article/domesticNews/idUSN2042446720080320?feedType=RSS&feedName=domesticNews&rpc=22&sp=true

Recently I wrote an article about errant text messages and text message blunders.  You may never have made any of these mistakes thanks to God.  But have you ever been a victim of pocket dialing? (Women get Purse Dialing) This one is the bane of my existence!  And for goodness sake folks... Pocket dialing even has a wikipedia entry! 

Pocket dialing is something just about any cell phone owner may have fallen victim to.   It is when your cell phone makes a call without you intending to make the call.  It gets it's name from having cell phone in your pocket (generally back pocket) and a normal body movement results in dialing either randomly or dialing a number from your phone's phonebook or last number previously in conversation with etc... 

Now you are walking along, or sitting to dinner or doing something without any knowledge your phone has made a call.  Again, I tell a little story about how my own phone called my wife (ex-wife) when I was out to lunch with a friend in my article Text messaging blunders, mistakes and the embarassment. This was far from the only time I've suffered from pocket dialing.  A few weeks ago my phone dialed my parents, three times! Last week it called my girlfriend.  Two months ago it called my son at school and he got his phone confiscated for the day until I came to pick it up for him. LOL  That is an ironic twist eh!

Pocket dialing has apparently reached epidemic proportions as it made it into everthing from discussion boards and phone reviews to an episode of How I Met Your Mother (TV Show CBS) when Ted's phone called Marshall's apartment all evening the night of St. Patrick's day celebrating.  The result was a reality check to his ...   more »

I just read this article on CNN.com about divorce. 

http://www.cnn.com/2008/LIVING/personal/03/18/divorce.celebrations/index.html

No offense folks but divorce is taken way too lightly.

I was at family court the other day and a guy was in tears because his wife had him arrested for calling home during separation to speak to his kids.  He wants to reconcile despite his wife being mean and selfish because they have children.  Sound familiar?

Look, not all women are bad, not all men are good. I get that.  I know that.  But time and again I am seeing a trend, AN INCREASING TREND that women are exiting relationships due to no fault divorce states like Delaware and they are just killing the future of families.  Men don't want to be reduced to sperm donors, and women shouldn't feel like men don't appreciate them.

We all need to just step back and look at what we are doing people.  Especially when children are involved.  Stop being selfish and think of all the children we will teach that a mother and father living apart is an acceptable solution while the kids darn well feel it is not.  We can kid them, we can tell them anything.  They are NOT stupid.  We make their lives hell for our mistakes.  Let's get real people and understand marriage is much more serious than looking forward to a divorce party.

They say one man can make a difference.  I've never believed it.  Never.  But today I'm wholy outraged by China and their actions towards monks and people of Tibet.

We as a world should act swiftly.  What does China care about?  Currently it is the Olympics.  The Chinese government has gone as far as limiting the pet population for "sanitary" reasons resulting in death camps for house cats.  The Chinese government is utterly cruel and inhumane in every way imaginable.

With the oppression of Tibet (dating back years), China is flexing its inhuman might and must be stopped.  The Chinese government is exterminating people.  China is killing innocent people.

NOT FOR CHILDREN'S VIEWING

We as a world must unite to help the peaceful people of Tibet.  Tibet's existence is now the responsibility of the world community.  That is YOU and ME.  That is every one of us that are aware of what is happening to the people of Tibet.  Some of the greatest souls on this planet are being exterminated and what are we doing?

We do have a voice.  Every government needs to pull out of the Olympics in protest.  That must be done and is ONLY a start.

What can you do now?  Call your congressman, have them be our voice and let every country step up.  If it takes US to take the lead, then so be it.  But it is not about who steps up first, it is how fast we step up.  People are dying.   Google your congressman, contact your elected officials.  Our Olympic committee needs to act. Fast.   We all need to show China we care about the country of Tibet. 

E-mail your friends. Get a list going.... someone create an Internet chain letter of awareness.  We must try.

I completed the interview this last week.  I've got the interview being sent out to be transcribed as it was an hour long conversation.  It was more of a conversation than an interview as Cy is a genuine guy that more artistically inclined than celebrity driven.  Having sung in a band, we spoke about music as fellow artisans and I believe you will find this an amazing interview as he himself acknowledged I drew a lot out of him others would have not.

I did not intend this, I simply think of Cy as a kindred spirit and the guy lives a life I would be living had I made it in the music industry.  I admire him greatly for being so grounded and the values he holds onto.   We are all flawed, as he and I even discussed divorce as we both have gone through that same journey.  This will be a great interview I know you will enjoy if you are a fan of the Fixx or not.

In the mean time Cy does have a new CD completed.  You can buy it as a zip file with lyrics and photo art complete at CDBaby.com for $9.99.  Of course they will mail you a this version for a bit more.  His web site is CyCurnin.com.

My kids LOVE this song!  For the past two years if we get bored in a store, I play this to them on my PDA phone.   This is one of those ultimate feel good songs. Enjoy!

Yesterday I got an e-mail from my son's school teacher about two minor issues with my son in school. 

One - He sold a hand held toy skateboard (TechDeck) to a friend for $4.00.

Two- His cell phone rang.

Now you may think I want to complain.  I do and I don't.  The school has rules and I did my part at home to help them honor the rules.   I instructed my son he couldn't take his TeckDecks to school anymore and I'd be checking his pockets and bags every day. No fun, but it is part of being a parent.   As for his phone... my son is 11.  Only his mother and I have his number.  The phone company gave him a re-used number and he gets stray calls from time to time.  I'll get his number changed now.  But being 11, he doesn't remember to turn his phone on after school, so I told him to leave it on.  Now I have to turn his phone off every morning and hope he turns it on when he leaves school.  This is important as once he walks out, I can call him if it's cold or raining and I intend to pick him up.  No one likes driving around for their child when they got a ride with some other parent.  Now you are anxious and concerned for safety when you shouldn't have to be. 

The reality is these issues shouldn't be issues.  They are a big deal to schools because they have to cover their butt with everyone.  I'm told, "If the other parent doesn't want their son buying the toy, they could be liable." As for the phone, that makes sense to me.  Hundreds of kids phones ringing all day would be a disaster.  But ...   more »

So... A year ago today is my divorce.  Some folks have celebrations on these days.  Some even send thank you cards.  Me... I just focus on my life.   And after all, what ever time I was married.  It had value.  But when someone divorces, it sends you in one of two directions.  You live in the past, or you live for the future.   I got back to life in a hurry.  While I put my kids first, I got back to living.  And you know what?  I found I was taking better care of myself than I ever realized.   And with a little work, I was able to improve a lot.  One goal I had was a bit selfish... I wanted to rip my abs like in the movie 300.   If you visit my galleries you'll see I was well on my way when I stopped posting photos.  I didn't want to come off vain, but I couldn't help be proud of my effort.  After all, I was putting in the time.  But in the end, I figure, my girlfriend petting my stomach was all I ever needed in the way of appreciation. 

So today she sends me another one of her famous e-mails... 

I get a list of photos.  Photos of celebrities when they are young and again when they are older.  Her subject line: This should make you feel good.  LOL  Yeah... It does.  I think that of all things... my body is in better shape than most 21 year old men.  I don't drink soda, I laoth high fructrous corn syrup (although it's not proven to be a health hazard) in everything I eat (I even avoid yogurt with it) and my children already know these same common sense eating habits.  I hear the secret ...   more »

Do as I say, not as a I do. 

Forbear to judge, we are sinners all.

Those who can't do... Teach.
 
Those who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones.

It’s easier to fight for principals than to live up to them.

What you do speaks so loud, I cannot hear what you say.

Don’t judge lest you be judged.

There are many forms of it.  Hypocrisy.  It comes down to people contradicting what they claim to be, what they claim to feel, or what they claim to believe through absent or diametrical actions.    A person becomes a hypocrite to you the moment you see those differences.
  
We regular people don't make an effort to prove virtuous people unvirtuous, however the media often looks to find and report people that espouses a truth in their life and exhibit the exact opposite behavior.

To me hypocrites are like teenagers.  You learn right from wrong and show a good gameface to your parents while secretly going out and doing everything opposite because you want to experience it.

The reality is we are all human and prone to wanting things to be our way, yet we ignore or compromise our values and beliefs all the time.  I say ignore, because only when you get caught do you begin to rationalize your hypocrisy.  For those that project this way… I won’t even bother to discuss the matter. Those targets are too easy.  Instead I’d like to focus in on identifying it when you see it.  The reality is, no matter what I say here… I think we all know hypocrisy when we see it.  But let’s enjoy a little exploration…

CONFUSING CASES
It can be hard to draw a line between right and wrong.    For instance, in the case of Global ...   more »

In the past couple weeks I've seen a lot of unusual things.  We will be leaving our home soon and that too makes me think of every good moment I've had here with my family. 

Life can be rewarding in many ways, sometimes it's greatest rewards come in not so obvious ways.  This weekend my boys made me very proud.  They represented the Hindsley family well and I'll never get tired of people telling me how much they look like me, or how much they look like each other.   For some of us, words like that mean little beyond the moment.  I don't think that way.

I'll catch myself watching my children play with others and feel a great sense of pride when they play well.   While all children make mistakes and need to make mistakes to learn from, I can't help but appreciate that they give dignity to our name.

We Hindsley's can be an odd lot, but my boys have learned, "We are Hindsley's not heathens."  

When I've tucked them at night, when I've read them a bed time story, I stand in doorway and tell them, "I love you both the most" I shut to door to end of another great day.  The days we are together are the greatest days of my life.   While any parent can use a breather, I can't help but feel complete with we three are together.   My family is fragmented from divorce, but we have indeed made lemonade out of lemons.  

I'd love to post photos and say more about our life, but I can't.   Take my word that in our home, there is a lot of love and a lot of people from which to be loved.   If you have children, remember they grow fast.  These are the best years ...   more »

So now I know what it is. 

It seems over the past couple years I've had a small bone growth on my foot.  Not unlike arthritis which grows in the joints.  This was not in a joint.  It actually surfaced on my talar bone.  It didn't hurt, or doesn't hurt.  Well, sometimes, depending on what shoe I wear.

It has a name even.  A talar beak.  A talar beak is a bone growth which is normal I'm told.  After x-rays, I learned that a beak like formation can commonly occur on your talar bone.

I thought I had a ganglion cyst at first.  However my doctor told me it absolutely was not a ganglion.  After all, ganglions are very hard like bone I've read. But this did not move and it was not between or on any tendons. 

So, if you are out there googling lumps on your foot, or bumps on your foot or even cysts on your foot, I've found out that a ganglion cyst is can be confused for a talar beak.  In both cases you can have them surgically removed.  I experience some redness and mild irritation from time to time. I may have to do something about it.  

In any event, mystery solved.

I don't usually let on that I'm in a relationship because of privacy.  For today, welcome to a bit of privileged information.

I'm in a healthy relationship.  I've kept it under wraps a real long time.  The lady I'm with is giving, she is normal, she is upbeat, content, , has great family values, loves children, makes sacrifices, loyal to a fault and very very smart. She is also divorced.  BUT She doesn't bring any emotional baggage, not one iota.  I can say that as it's been almost a year and I've even met her ex husband and there is no tension. 

All of this is by no accident.  Frankly, I wouldn't tolerate second best.  Flat out.  They say once bitten twice shy.  You never understand it until it is you that is bitten. I've been bitten and I was twice shy.   When I started to date again I ran into a number of types, from women that wanted to cut loose after divorce (wanted to experiment etc...) to women that had their own issues which I saw as bad omens based on what I had FINALLY learned in exiting my own long term ordeal.  I just had no room to be a victim again.  I have no toleration for bullshit is what it comes down to.

And guys (and girls) that is what I'm writing about today.  I was reading a new article at askmen.com today while eating lunch and figured I had to weigh in as I often do.   The article was about "the other man" or "an ex" or "a threat" in general.  But for me I saw it as it applied to my life in my own past.  Before I get to my own diatribe, I do encourage you to read the askmen.com article: Is He A Threat?...   more »