I received this e-mail just this afternoon.  I asked permission to post it as an article as I think is quite insightful.  I'll reflect on this ghost writers thoughts after...

I am sitting at my desk minding my own beeswax and I can hear the conversations going on around me...I am in an office primarily made up of young, unmarried women.  I remember being them...I hear their conversations and it resonants within me what it was like to be young and single and ironically, I guess I am kind of there again...although not as young anymore. ;o)

Let me explain what I'm hearing...this one woman has been dating someone exclusively for 9 months now and they began talking about living together.  They even went so far as to look at some places one weekend.  Now he is telling her that he wants to live with her, just not right now - that he feels like she is in some sort of race - a race to live together, get married, have babies.  As a result, she is pissed - he brought up the living thing in the first place, not her.  Now he's backing down.  Why do men do that?  Why do they have a fear of committment?  Why do they play hard to get or rather hard to tie down?

I do not doubt that she wants to settle down and get married.  I think most young women do still obsess over getting their men to commit.  I remember feeling that way - I remember being in a relationship and being told he just wasn't ready to be in a serious committed relationship.  It was devastating and crushing to hear that from him.  More than anything I just wanted to know I was wanted - that I ...   more »