This is a article about single fathers and the experience of divorce and custody.  I share some of my experience for credibility as an expert in guidance, but I don't share the grusome details.   What I discuss here is not a feminism issue, it's a system issue.  It's not a male verses female issue.   It's about the loss of joy.  It's about the loss of joy you have in feeling needed. 

Here is my backstory.  I have two children.  My eldest from a relationship where I was unmarried.  I gained custody of him when he was two.  That in itself should tell you a lot about me. He has lived with me since he was three months of age.   When he was one and a half I married a woman from overseas.  I brought her to this country.  I married for love.  We had a child after 6 years of marriage.  At year 9 she filed for divorce and after divorce I learned it was due to multiple affairs by her. She hates me to this day.  I forgave her a long time ago, but I'm careful of her (understated).  I can say this because I know.  FYI, my children do NOT see my blog. 

This article is not like most of my articles. It is written in four parts. Unlike previous men's guide or men's help articles such as A Man's Guide to Divorce - A Man's Guide to Separation, This article will be a free form article covering many aspects of divorce and custody.  All positive, and with NO disrespect to women.  It is a realistic view on behalf of worth while men struggling to maintain their role as fathers.

Staying on this serious positive note here, I want to make this VERY clear ...   more »