FYI to friends and family members,  today was a good day in family court. Things worked out great for my son and ultimately my children.  While I still have things to address and our final court hearing comes this August, I'm hopeful that over time my children will be kept safe and my rights as a father will be honored. 

I know some people expect me to write a smug article etc... You won't see that.  For one, I don't feel smug.  Secondly, while I've complained about being cheated on and adultery, raising my children is a whole other issue the two matters are separate.  They are separate in the adult world.  And the matter of adultery doesn't even exist in the world of my children. I keep my conversations and tone about their mothers positive when speaking to them about their mothers.  Say I was bitter at a point about the divorce, but I have never been bitter about my children.  The fact is our life improved drastically after the divorce. 

Today was a good day for my children.   I pray for every single father out there that you get the support I've been given through-out my experience.  It can be very hard, and you can feel isolated and alone, don't allow yourself that feeling.  Take control, keep your friends close and be sure to focus on your children.   You need time to yourself, you need activities for yourself, people to care for and be cared for, but most of all you tune EVERYTHING out when it comes to your children and you do what you always did best before you were divorced or separated, be a good father.  Everything else falls into place.

I've learned a hell of a lot this past year about family court.  I've learned so much about the mechanics the players, the attitude and reality of the system.  I went into with great hopes that all I needed to be was a good father and things would be great.  I've since learned so much about planning, being prepared for ALL things and not just the things you intended to prepare for and more.  I'm still in my case so I can't tip my hand.  But for you men that need advice, E-MAIL ME!

I've still got so much to learn about the legal system and how men can stand up to it and perhaps get a fair shake, I think it is my civic duty to help other worthwhile men navigate this very tough terrain. 

I mean NO disrespect to women; there are great women that make great mothers.  I can only speak for my own situation as a worthwhile man.   Knowing there are others out there like me, we need to learn from each other so we can maintain our rights as fathers.  

A little or a lot of pray helps too.  I thank my friends for prayers and others for the moral support you've offered.  Tonight is movie night with my kids and we are going to have a party of it.  Thank God for the good days.