As much as I'm in love with Manhattan, this is not me paying tribute to New York.
Rather this is a song pre-dating my marriage. Breakfast at Tiffany's by Deep Blue Something.
I was and am a big fan of the movie Breakfast at Tiffany's. Moon River and the entire feel of hoping to tame that beautiful woman with pure love... the only thing you could hope to tame a wild heart with. For anyone still under a rock and has not seen this film, it's a story of a woman from the country that uses her beauty to get by in the big city ...New York. She is practical with no use for love, well.... if you have enough money she'll love you. In the end, she has to choose between true love or love of money. It's a classic, I've mentioned it before.
Breakfast at Tiffany's was something that I kept to myself privately throughout my marriage. So now... allow me to extend my appreciation of the movie with Deep Blue Something's Breakfast at Tiffany's.
In this song, Breakfast at Tiffany's the story is simple. Two people that have little in common and don't belong together finding one thing they both share, an appreciation for the film Breakfast at Tiffany's.
Here are some links you will find inspiring, informative and truly worthwhile.
Guys... I've tried hard to find sites that are not about being bitter, argue needlessly about feminism and so forth. But the fact is wow! A lot of men's sites show how pissed off they are over feminism. I just don't need that in my life and neither do you. Sure read some of it and get a perspective but then get back to reality. A good woman will want equal rights for women, but won't ram it down your throat. She'll obviously feel her sex could be treated better, but she'll take great joy in cooking you dinner in the same way you enjoy cooking for her. In short a good woman will seamlessly be a part of your life.
You can't love women if you are busy arguing with them! LOL
So please don't feel as you review these links I'm full on endorsing them. I think they offer great insight as to why YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
Now while you are reviewing the links above, I found on one blog, these articles back-to-back. I couldn't help but think how so much in them is in me. The blog site is: The Men's View. You can see as you read these two posts, my point is made again and again. We ... more»
We hear about office romances more and more. Around Valentine's Day we celebrate it. However the reality is the rest of the year it's not so glamorous. From, post relationship favoritism, false sexual harrassment suits against men when relationships do not go well, to breaking up marriages, love at the office is not so loving and kind.
You can't point a finger at either sex. What you do find is that employers become enablers of affairs at work. There should be a standard among all employers to ensure good things stay good and bad things cannot take place. This problem is clear cut but nothing is ever done about it. No one takes this problem serious, but it is. It's just like women using mens bathrooms; a man would get arrested in a heartbeat for walking into a woman's public bathroom, but when women walk into a mens bathroom (like at sports stadiums) men simply laugh it off without the urge to dial 911. Oh... we all have this train of thought run through our head, but we do nothing. It is mainly because men know nothing will be done about it, and that we also are not as willing to to feign offense over the actual need to use a bathroom. It doesn't make it any more right for women to use the mens room. It is wrong, but we men accept it. We don't have to accept our lives being destroyed by reckless employers.
Employers are not doing enough with mere Love Contracts meant to protect the company. The video below is NBC piece featuring Love Contracts. Love contracts in the eyes of the people signing them become mini-marriages. The honeymoon is over after one lands in your lap. Read: Roses, Candy & Love Contracts.
Love at the office is not always love. Sometimes it's lust. This is where things become troublesome for the good people working for paycheck and not working to raise their social status... of course little do they know they are lowering their social status. In some cases your reputation or lack there of leads to poor performance reviews resulting in your own resentment for the company you work for. You then leave in shame and laughed at after you are gone.
Perhaps the mere concept or idea of hell hath no fury like a woman scorned (whatever that may be to her) means that for men, you should take the most clinical and military approach to resolving the issue of a bad office affair. Then of course there are women that actually give a damn about the man they have lost even if their misguided approach has good intentions. Of course you could wind up a married man in a bad relationship ready fall victim to a woman preying on married men. I don't condone cheating on your wife any more than I agree with women cheating on husbands but it seems that in this modern society, the tables have turned sharply. Men are now the weaker sex, we are the oppressed. I know ladies... you have a hard time stomaching this statement.
Employers don't seem to get it yet that consensual affairs or sex between employees is broader than the two involved. Example? Me. While my ex was in an extra marital affair with a co-worker, JP Morgan Chase considers that a consensual affair. They didn't get my consent! This was a married woman, in a contract with her husband. The company has a responsibility to all parties here, not just their specific employees. You have most likely read my position from time to time about adulterous women (yes it works both ways, I'm a man, I'm writing from my point of view). I'm a victim of divorce by adultery because of this very issue. And yes, I'd personally like to sue JP Morgan for not just prohibiting this, but enabling this workplace atmosphere. I do in fact see them as liable for the break-up of my marriage. If JP Morgan Chase Bank had established a true professional work place environment my marriage would be intact today. While I was being alerted to the affair by co-workers at one time, and the JP Morgan head of security was informative in many regards, this information came about "after the fact". The company needed to be proactive, not reactive. You would think they'd see they have their own interests to protect as one day a situation like my own may indeed become a class action law suit. I'll say no more on that. Employers would do well to read their own human resource surveys regarding work place romance such as this one.
As it stands now, the dirty little secret of large employers is that male and female alike see this problem but no one intends to fix it. Open conversations take place at the watercooler, at lunch, in car-pools and of course on web sites, Read: What is the #1 reason women cheat on their mate.
Perhaps the most scathing indictment that these problems occur at work came about from a small article written in Forbes back in 2006. It was originally just s single article titled: Careers and Marriage. Soon after Careers and Marriage was published it got legs and drew a lot of attention. Forbes did well to "cover their ass" and had another writer post a counter point article then quietly married them together as two articles under one title. The beauty of the web, nothing is permanent. By then it was too late, the cat was out of the bag.
What puzzles me to this day is that the REASON the article Careers and Marriage has impact is that it has an arsenal of background data to stand on. There is a foundation to the argument of "do not marry a career woman". Now of course not all career women will have affairs, but the point made here is that the odds SKYROCKET when a wife takes a corporate career path. There is no doubt that if a person is prone to cheating, the work place becomes their playground for selfish behavior. A feminist will argue this point saying men are "just as bad" and I won't debate men are just as guilty. However for many many years men came a long way in learning to observe the respect of women in the work place. Men are the weaker sex in this mental arena and when women open the door, men walk right through. I can't stress enough that the Careers and Marriage article in Forbes is based on a large foundation of sources such as:
I believe there is another factor no outlined in the Careers and Marriage article and that is the factor of a "practical woman". Women that think in practical terms disconnect from feelings or emotions most of us depend on to keep us grounded in a relationship. Practical women will look at men in practical terms while performing the ruse of love, knowing this is how the system works. Employers need practical minded employees but should be wary of the no-nonsense, practical woman. Ethics and morality is not part of their life and the employer too becomes a resource only to serve them.
Assuming for a fleeting moment that what we face is a wave of practical women operating under the radar within the corporate world, men face a difficult delehma in love. How can a man live within his lifetime commitment to women losing their souls in this material world?
It can't be by the same rules of someone that secretly is manipulating them for personal gain and selfish desires. There is only one way to do it. Mandate it. The corporate workplace needs to adopt the same mandates as the rest of the world, in fact their standards should be higher. Let's see if some strong minded, confident do-gooding lawyer or firm will ever step up.
I'm talking to a guy this morning... never met him before. We are discussing my situation, and he understands my situation and has seen it with his own friends. He admires my ability to not let all this get me down or become emotional over it. And I tell him, "Enjoy the complacency of marriage."
And that is my advice to all you men and women out there who are married.
You may think that if there is a lack of excitement in your relationship or no sparks flying as they once were that you should just cut your ties and start again. But that is wrong. You only find out later what you lost.
This guy talking to me discusses how everything they have could flip tomorrow and they could find themselves in a divorce and he would be screwed as both of them have to split everything. A beach home, 401k's, bank savings, everything.
What I say is this, you lose something much more. You lose time. You lose all those years you have with someone. Is it worth that? It goes beyond starting over. It's about ending something that may have had many good moments all washed away. Do you want to have to look back on the good times with bitterness, or worse to look back and have your judgment of those times clouded with disdain?
Everything in your life becomes meaningless behind you as you start again.
If there are children... If there are children... well... I won't even go there.
Look, please... you couples should BOTH read this column today. One of you is reading this... get your spouse to come read it so you both "get it”.
The complacency of your marriage is a good thing. You worked hard ... more»
Continued from My Name Is Nobody - PART ONE OF TWO
On the surface this story is simple. What attracted me to My Name Is Nobody were the many levels of symbolism and life lessons spread all over. Take for instance the story of the little bird. I posted that as an article last week for fun. If you read the article, its about a little bird that falls out of a tree. A cow comes up and drops a dung heap on it to keep it warm, then a coyote comes up brushes it off clean and then eats it. I left you readers with pondering the moral to the story for yourself.
In the movie My Name Is Nobody, the main character Nobody tells that story in the middle of the movie. He leaves Jack Beauregard in the same quandary, he says, “My grandpa said you have to figure out the moral for yourself.”
In the final moments of the story Jack Beauregard writes a letter to Nobody telling him he’s figured out the moral to his grandpa’s story of the little bird. His answer seems as relevant now as it could ever be. It’s a lesson I took with me forward through my own life.
Desire is a life changing element in each of our lives. From our desire for a man or woman to the desire for food or a drug. When we desire something, it consumes us. We give ourselves over to desire. We comprimise our values, we become blind to morality. We disregard wrong from right.
I'm a man that believes you can channel things. For instance redirect negative energy into positive energy. I believe you can refocus desire. We as humans have a tendancy to be addictive to things. You can have positive or negative addictions. When you become addicted you have a uncontrolable desire. So what do you do abou something uncontrolable? How do we control the uncontrolable? Desire is a creature we dare not test without having a serious plan of action. Desire is a precious painful temptation we give into. Mentally we give ourselves over to what we want and damn what gets in our way. I know of few people that can temper desire. I suppose these people are the ones that channel. For instance they may not smoke, or drink or spend a lot of money, but they love sex. Or perhaps they are controlled in every area of life from spending to love and all they have left is some sick habit the rest of us are aware of.
Desire can be the worst of things, and it can be the most beautiful. When you desire a woman, you can find yourself changing everything in your life for what she will give herself over to you for. You could be the pauper that makes yourself a prince just to show her you are worthy. And if that happens, your desire for her made you a better man.
Desire is a paradox. It holds the truth in us. Look inside ... more»
Today, I have to feature Danny Wilson... not just a single video.
A GIRL I USED TO KNOW
A great face paced song I used to drive my motorcycle to. I can still picture leaning into turns on mountain country roads. Now I listen to it while skating... the toughest turns now being small hills in Central Park. LOL
Killer lyrics: "The precious time we had will never be forgotten, but every girl has to grow.. up to be a woman, it's just that for a second I recognized the girl I used to know"
MARY'S PRAYER
A song from my youth, I hold it more dear than anyone could know... You have to know this emphasis in his voice shows he sings with true pain and passion.
"Suddenly the heavens roared, suddenly the rains came down..."
"So when you find somebody you keep, think of me and celebrate... Save me, save me... leave the light on in heaven for me .... blessed is the millionar who shares your wedding day..."
NEVER GONNA BE THE SAME
Ahh, Paris. Shot in city I have learned to love so dear if only the French didn't hate Americans.
I see the boys riding a bike for three in the streets of Paris and the music couldn't be more fitting.
The song is about blame shifting people, a topic I've written about a good bit.
"Once there was an Angel, and angel and some friends...flew around from song to song making up the ends. People nowadays don't need them. People nowadays need people to blame."
"Once a China cup is cracked you can bring it to new again, and it may forever stay intact but it's never gonna be the same"
THE SECOND SUMMER OF LOVE
At this point, you are either a fan of Danny Wilson or you ... more»
YouTube "single fathers raising children", nothing. Google it, sales pitches and sob stories.
Here is the deal.
Ten years ago I won residency of my son. Won is a terrible term, if anyone "won" it was my son, but it came a price. His birth mother made wild claims like I wasn't his father (my son and I were then tested), she created jurisdiction disputes and of course more lies that meant time to heal when it was all through.
I have read more than I ever care to read on men being destroyed mentally after losing custody or residency of their children. It's hell, its a prison, is worse than any person can imagine. The possibility of it looms over your head and you can't eat, you can't sleep well and you essentially live in fear and fight off depression.
I am a lucky man. I know that. I have said time and again every parent should fight for their child, they'd appreciate them more. The act of them brushing their teeth, watching them play with siblings, watching them roll on the carpet with out a care in the world... becomes priceless.
When I fought for my son, it changed me to the core. I swore I'd make certain the courts would be proud of allowing me (that's right I felt honored to be allowed to be my son's father) to be my son's full time father.
I did everything in my power to learn every parenting skill needed. Not because of the courts, but because the experience taught me what I had. And even then, perhaps the experience of feeling I could loose what was most precious to me wasn't completely the reason I wanted to be the best father. I had my own childhood to correct. I ... more»
I'm going to be away the next couple days. I'm taking an in important trip. Travelling 800 miles in a short time may not enable me to post any articles, but I will try. more»
My name is nobody. That line seems to read sadly doesn’t it? It is far from it. It is in fact an important part of my life. It’s a line that empowered me. It offered me hope and it became a way of life for me.
When I was a mere boy of 14 I was in search of my identity like most early teens. While some boys were established jocks, some boys had scholastic skills that seemed unfair, and others had charisma, I had none of these at the exceptional level in which I felt I knew what I’d do with my life.
At best I had a love for music and sang in my bed at night. That is another story.
From an early age I admired men of mystery. Men that said little, or if they spoke, their words protected them. Two types of men that fit this mold where spies and detectives. Spies would always speak in public with words meant to communicate yet protect their agenda and identity. Little of their life was open on the surface. A spy lived a sad life however because those that loved them most, may never know them, including perhaps a wife. With detectives, they saw life through a different prism, and like spies their senses were sharpened to what they saw in day-to-day life, let alone situations that required finely tuned instincts. Spies had secret lives and lexicons, while detectives read secrets. These people made sense to me. I have always been drawn to those skills. These type of men lived a life where they were essentially unseen, could blend in and saw the world around them in a way other people took for granted. I admired spies and detectives because they were strong and comfortable with being, nobody. They live around us invisibly. They are nobody.
On this special day I'd like to dedicate this song to one special woman I know. She knows who she is. Great song by a band I really like... Girls & Boys by Good Charlotte
Educated With money He's well dressed Not funny And not much to say in Most conversations But he'll foot the bill in All situations Cause he pays for everything
Girls don't like boys, girls like cars and money Boys will laugh at girls when they're not funny
Paper Or plastic Don't matter She'll have it Vacations And shopping sprees These are a few Of her favorite things She'll get what she wants If she's willing to please His type of girl Always comes with a fee Hey, now, there's nothing for free
Girls don't like boys, girls like cars and money Boys will laugh at girls when they're not funny And these girls like these boys like these boys like these girls The girls with the bodies like boys with Ferraris Girls don't like boys, girls like cars and money
Let's go! Eh, eh!
Girls don't like boys, girls like cars and money Boys will laugh at girls when they're not funny And these girls like these boys like these boys like these girls The girls with the bodies like boys with Ferraris Girls don't like boys, girls like cars and money
All of these boys, yeah get all of these girls Losing their souls in a material world All of these boys, yeah get all of these girls Losing their souls in a material world All of these boys, yeah get all of these girls Losing their souls in a material world All of these boys, yeah get all of these girls Losing their souls in a material world
Welcome readers. Welcome to the blog of Lars Hindsley.
I draw the title of my blog from a seemingly and misleading paradoxical statement: Another Lousy Day in Paradise. Most people don't realize this is a positive statement. The worst day in paradise is a great day folks. Another lousy day in paradise is STILL a great day to be had. My articles come from my point of view in my life of paradise.
Here you will find my blog ranges from expressive writing (expressed from this writers point of view) to persuasive writing (emphasizing you - my audience) from my provincial point of view. However you also find a good bit of referential writing as well as a blend of opinion within my referential writing. This wide range of writing types results in my broad audience.
I write about subjects (experiences and personal knowledge) you can apply to your lives. Sometimes my pathos not only includes my experiences but the pathos I draw from experiences. I’ve learned that perception is everything and reality is nothing.What we perceive for ourselves to be true is our reality.I consider this mental model in every reader as I write any expressive or blended referential article.It's the foundation from which I support my expressive articles.
In the last 20 years the art of writing has experienced a boon. The advent of the Internet re-established the need for good writing skills through e-mail and web pages. The Internet also becomes a vital source in informative or referential articles I produce. Many times I merely incorporate source materials from the Internet to illustrate my points or augment my position on a subject. However, in almost every case I write on subjects based on personal experience.
The scope of my writing here really tests my abilities as a writer. As mentioned my audience ranges ... more»
The twists and turns in life are what make it interesting.If it was a straight path, you’d get trapped in monotony and boredom.
Take for instance this past week has been a whirlwind in my life.
It started when I attended an important meeting earlier this week.I learned someone I used to know just landed a job earning 25k more than their last job.That is certainly a blessing from the lord.
Then as the week progressed and people everywhere were talking and sharing the implications of changes in our lives… well, you find that life is just full of twists and turns.
Sometimes you think the worst of situations when they are actually blessings in disguise.It’s all about perspective I suppose.
Later in the week things became face paced as those twists and turns arose.In my life you get so used to twists and turns that you learn to anticipate them and you find you’ve become adept in handling them.Imagine a car drifting flawlessly through a turn making better time as it comes out into a short straight away or another turn.I’ve become that car you might say.
As I sit at my desk with snow on the ground outside... four kids in the other room playing... I have to say, this spring looks to be a better one that last year.
Tomorrow we have the annual covered dish dinner and remote control race car races at Church. I have a little league meeting and more...
My sons will both be playing little league this spring among other things. Finally a year of things that I can count on. :)
Well, gotta go. It's a day off for the kids but not for me. ;)
When a person loves money and only money they have no use for people. They pretend to care about people and pretend they are playing by the same rules as the rest of us, but in the end, they would walk over you like a carpet.
Should a greedy person get caught with their hand in the proverbial cookie jar, they will cry and say they are sorry. The will beg for forgiveness.
Why?
Because they are sorry they got caught. They are not sorry for what they did to get caught. They are only sorry they got caught.
I get a lot of advice from people. But you know... it is advice after the fact. People often never want to get involved, don't want to testify against "old" friends or want to be responsible for affecting others lives because they don't want to "take sides" and the list goes on. It's funny how no one tells you anything until it's too late.
While I understand divorce and game playing can work two ways, the cards are stacked against men. They just are. I'm sorry, I'm not trying to come off as women bashing or anti-women. That is far far from the case. The problem currently is that we as a society want to protect women at every turn and a beauty and tears have a major impact on courts.
Read this story.... get into the third paragraph about this man and you will know the true pain of so many men in divorce. The percentages don't lie. Many many men don't look to marry for any other reason than to have a best friend for life. When a man like this marries a woman of "practical" means, he is in for a rude awakening one day.
The TWO stories below reflect the feelings of men everywhere. What you should draw from this article is the astounding parallels in every case. What is most striking is how these women "switch off". They decide they are out, and a lifetime if history with these men is meaningless. The only thing they have on their mind is "winning" and "destroying" the man they once loved. It's not pretty.
Read this reprinted article with care. I've found my own situation playing out in the lives of these other men discussed in the article below.
Sudden Divorce Syndrome Divorce may be the worst ... more»
The other day I e-mailed out a private article for a number of my readers. It dealt with divorce and custody on a number of levels. Over the past year I've found many men are like me. They are real men, yet they are involved fathers that in many cases take on the primary care-giver role like myself. Yet something happens... we find ourselves resented and cast aside by "practical" women that really had no sense getting married if they didn't understand what true love is in the first place. The only good news is that by divorcing us, you allow a good woman to take your place and appreciate a good man.
The bad news is it is a road that we men can almost never endure. So many men honestly... don't have a chance in court against a woman. Unless you have been in court before, unless you see the writing on the wall and take steps to protect yourself, or unless you just happen to be a man that performs all the primary care giver roles without question and plenty of proof of it.... Well, you end up like this man that replied to my e-mail article. I'll call him Nick. I asked for Nick's permission before posting his reply. See for yourself ladies and gentlemen, men like me are not alone. There are thousands of us out there. There are possibly a million.
Hi Lars,
Thanks for the article. I'm sorry to hear how bad it really was for you and your children and the sad truth of it is that I get you. I can understand totally how it could be. I lay awake at night for hours worried about the same sort of thing happening to me. Happily, at the moment, my ex is ... more»
If anyone knows of anyone suing Google Adsense for click fraud, let me know.
I entered into adsense reluctantly. I asked you readers to click on my ads. I've earned about $120.00 in my first month which I just found out today Google does not intend to pay. And they suspended my adsense account.
They just cut you off. No answer, no personal attention. Nothing. Essentially, if some one like my ex decides to click on and abuse links to get me banned, I'm at Googles mercy. In fact, there is no mercy. There is not solutionother than to ban me as an advertising partner and refuse to pay me.
If anyone has information about a class actions suit against Google for this, I for one intend to join it. Thankfully Googles own great search engine application will see this article and rank it in the top ten right away when people search "class action suit against Google".
I'm sure a news outlet or attorney's office will make contact eventually based on the content of this article.
Very lame Google. Very lame. I did ZERO wrong, followed your rules, and have been exceedingly ignored. They say money speaks louder than words. Sooner or later you'll hear me. For now, I'm most likely just one more vendor your impersonal approach is taking a toll on. I should have known when I spent $3,500.00 on advertising in your adwords program years ago, things had not gotten much better. You won't get me a third time.
I guess I need three tries in most things. Ladies... you know who you are. LOL
A person I once knew was married to a Russian mobster. I was close to this person and when we parted ways, I was told I could be killed if I became enough of a problem in their life.
I recieved no less than two death threat phone calls last year. My family constantly tells me to be on my guard.
Have you ever text messaged the wrong person? Ever heard of "textual harrassment" or "texting while intoxicated"? If not, read on. You'll get a kick out of this.
I first wanted to write an article only about text messaging the wrong person after learning I am not the only person having text messaged the wrong person. I'll get to that. However this is a topic that goes beyond this one blunder. So let's explore...
ACCIDENTLY CALLING THE WRONG PERSON
For me it all started when I acquired my first PDA (Personal Digital Assistant) phone. These phones have large touch screens and locking software is frankly a pain in most cases. Inevitably the phone would dial back in error anyone I was on the phone with last. This happened from time to time and usually it was my wife. WAS. LOL.
Nooooo! I never spoke to anyone I shouldn't be talking to, don't go assuming too much. The only story there is that I was annoyed by my phone. There is this one time when I was out to lunch with a friend from high-school, and old band buddy. We were catching up at nice sit down restaurant. My phone called my wife while it was on the table! Later she told me, "You idiot, you left a 20 minute voice mail at my office!" You'd think the joke ends there. She went on because she was angry, not pissed, but angry. Yes ladies and gentlemen my wife heard me speak things she should not have heard. And no I didn't speak ill of her. I recall telling my friend that my wife didn't know me. We were talking about how she angrily told me once she didn't want to know about my past life before her and I had to put all my photos of ... more»
This is the story of the little bird... The lesson in this story has helped me navigate life and the people in it.
There was this little baby bird that fell from it's tree in the cold of snow. It starts peeping, "Pa peep! Pa peep!" as it was damn near freezing.
Along comes this cow. She looks down at the little bird and feels sorry for it. She raises her tail and... "splah!"
...She drops a steaming hot cow pie right on top of it.
The little bird starts again... "Pa peep! Pa peep!" Because it's hungry.
Along comes a mean ole Coyote... It reachs down easy into the cow pie and picks the little bird up. He raises the little bird higher and brushes the dirt off him real nice.
And then... "Gulp!" Swallows the little bird down all in one bite!
There is a moral to the story but you have to figure it out for yourself...
I realize every young twenty-something girl has an opinion on John Mayer now based on his youthful romantic charm. I'm not one of those, LOL. When I saw him live summer of 007 I was charmed by his down to earth nature. That he's making the round dating starlets works fine for me. It's his life to live. He's no little boy and that he has the same one fear in life that I do, I think I get him. My best memories of John Mayer are while skating in Central Park. I can't wait to skate around again visiting museums and watching the world roll by. Perhaps this song will be playin' ...
There is a band that I have loved for such a long time. Few rival their words in my opinion.
I'm speaking of a quirky band named Prefab Sprout. I present to you this very heartfelt song. One of the Broken. It hails from an amazing CD, Jordan: The Comeback. If I were on a desert island with a small collection of music to listen to for the rest of my life, this would be one of them.
One of the Broken is sung from the perspective of God. Yes. God. It dances back and forth from God speaking to you and then singing to you. The genuine passion and sincerity in Paddy Mcaloon's voice is perfect in its peacefulness. This lyrical device is not so subtle when you decide to speak on behalf of God. For God fearing men, you better be careful or at least hope God has a sense of humor.
But the message is so sincere. In short God asks you to sing your song to one of the broken, and by doing so... you are singing to God.
What makes One of the Broken special is that you instantly believe that God could be having his conversation in this manner. You are listening and willing. "It's not too far from here, come get up off your knees..."
Musically it is a contemporary hymn. And you feel you are floating in that third heaven as Paddy laces in the harp. The spiritual element is not wasted either. It makes no bones about being a song for believers.
Hi, this is God here. Talking to me used to be a simple affair. Moses only had do see a burning bush ...and he'd pull up a chair.
Well it's been a long time since we've talked in that way If ... more»
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Hey everyone.... my post below is really all in fun. My funny subtle point was that for some of us that dont' marry for love, still have a reason to celebrate the holiday. ... And I know you "practical" types play the part of romantics too. I'm not daft. :) We all want everyone to see us as romantic even if we are not. But under the surface you have to have some reason to be with a mate. So the article below was a fun jab at you practical types. Go ahead! Pop the question! LOL more»
If you know me, I think marriage is a sacred institution. My own parents have been married over 50 years. I hold them in high regard. My mother retired from her work in great standing, my father is a Deacon at our small Baptist Church. I only ever wanted to marry but one time. I look at marriage not in a practical sense, but from a romantic point of view. People stay married for the strangest of reasons. I did. But what I didn't consider was the financial benefits of marriage. Well... not overtly...
So on this wonderful Valentine's Day... I offer to you you this very valuable peice of information and insight I've been sitting on for some time now. Happy Valentine's Day lovers. :)
Divorce lawyers or counselors rarely advise their clients of the financial risks of divorce. Yet judging from a study by Jay Zagorsky, an economist at Ohio State University who measured how divorce reverses the substantial and positive annual yield that marriage exerts on one’s net worth, most married couples cannot even afford to divorce and rarely recover financially when they do.
Looking at data from the 1979 cohort of the National Longitudinal Survey of Youth, Zagorsky tracked the financial and marital status of more than 9,000 men and women between 1985, when they were in their twenties, and 2000, when they were in their early forties. He found that the average net worth of individuals who marry begins to climb rapidly in the second year of marriage and reaches nearly $43,000 in the tenth year of marriage. But among those who divorce, average net worth begins to fall in the four years prior to the divorce (which he attributes to the process of separation), bottoms out the year ... more»
I saw this today and thought I'd share. Ack.. it gives men such a bad name. So neanderthal! The very end sums it up. Argh! You see, this why men get a bad name. You wonder why she is with him!
Second chances. Familiar with this term? We all are. What does it really mean? It seems to mean different things under many circumstances. It has a different perspective of course to the person asking and the person giving the second chance. But does it have different meaning?
I don't think been in many second chance situations. But I've had to offer many. And I've had that term thrown at me countless times. It is usually served up in tandem with "I've changed". Dangerous words.
Folks, when that comes, you should damn well your second chance is not a second chance. It's an opening to regain what was lost and that is all.
And the meaning itself seems to have been twisted. After all, we've even resorted to the term, many second chances. You know what I mean right? How many of us have said, "How many second chances to I have to give you?"
If you are like me, eventually you become a miser with your second chances. They become a commodity. There is only so many to be had with me and if you get one, it's the real deal now.
My advice to you today is to remember that you providing second chances to people in life, defines you. It says a lot about you. How many you give may say you are a forgiving person. How few you give puts value on those chances and earns you respect. Providing them willy-nilly means you can be easily duped or used.
Consider how you give them. Give some thought to the "second chance" you give.
Now if you are receiving a second chance, you should take it serious. Because not everyone gives third chances and if you are sincere in your effort you will learn from what ... more»
Today was one of those days with the unexpected. My son's and I get to the dentist for a routine teeth cleaning at 3:30 pm and don't get out of there until 7:00 pm due to my oldest son needing a root canal. Now don't get down on me... The dentist assured me it wasn't my fault. My boys both brush in the morning twice. First before breakfast when they first get out of bed. No toothpaste. Again after breakfast before leaving for school. They brush again before bed time.
I'm told that my youngest son has smooth curves in his teeth so brushing for him produces better results in removing plaque build up. My oldest son... he leaves there today with a root canal and an arsenal of cleaning tools to be more precise in removing build up in the future. It was heart breaking.
Meanwhile, my ex wife complains to me when I get home that I poisoned my son by having his teeth cleaned at a four month interval instead of six month interval.
Some days just seem to make no sense. You suck it up for your children is what I have to tell you all. My son was almost in tears watching my other son and I eat while he couldn't due to the shot he got in his mouth earlier. Later he had soup but he was and is miserable tonight. Pray for his comfort please. I promised him ANYTHING he wanted to eat tomorrow.
If nothing else I really think he got a big wake up call to how serious I've been in pressing him to brush often. In our home I don't allow soda, we lay off the high-fructrose drinks even juice. For my boy to need a root canal is just ... more»
From year to year I write a little something about Valentines Day. For some history on Valentine's Day, Read: The History of Saint Valentine's Day.
If you are going to celebrate Valentine's Day with a loved one, you first need to examine your heart. Are you in love? Are you dating? Are you married? Hopefully you are not having an affair.
How do you want to celebrate it? Perhaps you are limited on how you can celebrate it. And frankly, this is how you should approach it if you want to come at it with a deeper affection.
If you are going out to dinner, you needed to plan this day well in advance. Do NOT expect to get into a restaurant without a reservation on Valentine's Day. This is a man's duty, so please guys... don't let me down here.
As for you women... men deserve affection too. I wrote an article years ago about how to buy flowers for men. Ladies, you really need to read this article: Giving a man flowers? Here is your guide to giving a man flowers. I firmly believe that if you both really important to each other... a woman will give just as much thought to her man as he does to her. If this is true, ladies... you want to send you man flowers on Valentine's Day. If you are going to send him flowers... then read my article above for some great male perspective.
I've been checking my stats on the blog and my article Giving a man Flowers has been getting a strong amount of hits running up to Valentine's Day. It's good to know someone is searching this subject and it bears relevance to many.
Then there are movies... If you arrive back home to cuddle up ... more»
Men, I have full custody of my first son. In nine years of raising him, I kept myself out of the family court system. A testimony of my own ability as a father. I married, had another child and sadly, like in that quote in my part one article (Single Fathers Fighting For Custody: Understanding Divorce), I was suddenly flattened one day with divorce papers. I should have seen it coming, but honestly I didn't. That is another story. My point is that I have two son's of which I'm still a full time father. I'm in the fight of my life for one of them. But the present situation is not as bad as what it could be. I feel lucky while I read so many articles about how men are just getting ripped to shreds in the court system. I look at my own situation which should have been open and shut, but has been made cloudy for what should be obvious reasons to you other men in custody battles.
I'm lucky. And I' reminded of how lucky I am when I read stories like this:
When the weather breaks and it's cold outside I drive my oldest son to school even though the school is in our neighborhood. I sit other parents children in the morning before school too, so it makes sense. It's a ritual, each morning he gets out of the car and his little brother yells, "I love you D! Have a nice day at school!" He's strapped into his car seat so he can't see behind his window but he can hear his brother answer back.
Today it's nuts cold out. The car seats are heated... the car is warm. We pull up to the sidwalk where two of his teachers are always opening car doors for kids. He cracks a joke... "Awww it's hot in my car!" Meanwhile his teacher is muttering back in a appreciation of his dry humor, "Don't talk to me about heat D!" To rub it in, his little brother chimes in, "Man it's hot in my car!" I drive away laughing.
