There is a saying; you can only kid yourself for so long. I have to reflect on that today.

And I should say this straight first... I am not commenting on myself.  No, I’m thinking of someone else when I think of this saying.

I think in terms of someone wanting something that is not the way they want it to be, to be something else.  They want in a affect a lie they are telling them self to be true,  and they want that lie to be true for them so badly that they of course believe in their own lie.

That lie becomes a foundation for more lies.  And eventually a narcissistic person emerges for all to see.  Everyone sees a delusional person.  But the person telling this lie... they’ve got them self convinced everyone else is on board with their lie.  They falsely assume everyone is buying into their lie.  But it is indeed a solo effort.

At first people try to talk sense into this person.  Eventually, and frankly, people don’t want to hear it anymore and tune the liar out.  People around the liar go on as if they believe you but they don’t.  They just don’t want the drama.   They know the truth and they know the only way for them to maintain the truth is simply ignore your lies.

But when does it end?  When does it catch up with you?   When do you finally “get it.”  When do you finally understand that it is you that needs to look in the mirror, not everyone else? 

This is a burning question that every liar must eventually come to terms with.   The liar has kid them self for a long time.   There comes a day of reckoning.  There comes a day of judgment.  There comes a time when you just can’t kid yourself anymore.

I hear that drug addicts or alcoholics have to hit rock bottom before they can bounce back up.  I hear that in life, people must reach their absolute lowest with no options before they understand they have a  problem and admit to themselves the truth about them self.

I think this is true of other problems for people such as the liar I described above.  So we all must watch and wait for our subject to hit the bottom.  

Do you take pity on them?  Do you care enough to not be arrogant about their fall?  The best among us know that doing the right thing is usually an unsung victory.