And while I never drove around listening to The Lover Speaks with Noel on the back of my motorcycle there were many times I did drive her around on the back of my motorcycle.  Here is one photo of us when we snuck away for a week to Myrtle Beach South Carolina.  I packed my motorcycle onto the back of my truck along with another friend’s cycle and we double dated for the week at the Midtown Motor Inn where friends of the family owned that motel.  This photo is of Noel and I on Ocean Boulevard in Myrtle Beach.  Alas, The Lover Speaks had it's most special meaning to me when Noel and I drifted out of love.  She was such a great friend and lover and I hardly thought it possible I could love anyone in my lifetime the way I loved Noel. We were like a team that understood what the other was thinking and doing and why we thought and did.  I was deeply scarred by losing that kind of love and The Lover Speaks was an album that strange enough helped me understand how to get through it.  One song that sticks in my mind is Love is- I Gave You Everything which is the only other song that brings to mind a long time ex.  "In my daydreams, in my delicate daydreams..."  And once again when June sings that Oooo ooo ooo at the end... it tugs at the heart.  "I cling to things I'm sad for days...."

I think the last person I ever exposed this band to was Pam Warters an Olympic ice skater I dated for a few months.  She wasn’t very deep, but she was sexy as hell and this music did remind me of her as she too was drawn to it’s sound. 

The one person I did let in on The Lover Speaks and she did understand them and me, was Erica Dilcer.  Erica was not only a romantic close to my heart, she was fun.  In fact when I hear the song Never To Forget You I think of flying across the hills of Avondale on my motorcyle heading to pick her up for one of our motorcyle day trips.   

I did one day in my marriage to my then wife I exposed her to The Lover Speaks but she didn’t react to the beauty of this music because I was playing everything I had to her at one point and she was like a kid in a candy store with all the music I played to her.  She had a wide choice of music to latch on to and The Lover Speaks was just one more of a long list of romantically oriented bands that she didn’t connect with.  She was never a romantic, and admittedly this bothered me that the woman I married didn’t connect with love.  And the Lover Speaks is more about romance that most bands put together. 

We come full circle again.  Now I’m single again and I was playing random music from my library while working at my desk.  The Lover Speaks plays No More I Love You’s and I think, “Yeah, that’s the way I feel.”   Once again I understand the feeling of love dying.  To think.... just months ago I was singing songs like, “Baby’s coming back so I’m on my best behavior, I’ve long run out of my last chances but she’s on her way.” LOL  Romantic men like me should be put out to sea and deserted on a island. :)

Now I reflect on my marriage with the wisdom of hindsight.  I try and remember times like Aruba and lying in the surf when I took the Lover Speaks on CD with me to listen to.  Song's like Tremble Dancing, Never To Forget You and Of Tears fill my brain.  But now once again The Lover Speaks offers me wisdom with songs like This Can't Go On! Because since my marriage ended, sadly I learned much of it wasn't what I thought it was.  Not a fitting end of love for such a romantic man, but life is not like what you see in movies or hear in songs.

As I sit here with my son on my lap, he asks to take a picture of me and is saying.. "Dad, when people love each other then want to take a picture."  So it's time to get back to reality. Life that is not all about romance and women. 

I will leave you with the upbeat side of the Lover Speaks that really can make you understand that they are about. :)  ...and how they remind me of why I'm better off on my own, than chasing romance and love. ;)

THIS CAN'T GO ON!