The birthday deal.  This was funny.  I saw an episode of “rules of engagement”.  I guess long term relationships have so many nuances about them it is actually very funny to anyone that is single.  Which leads me to… The Birthday Deal. 

The bottom line is one character reveals to his buddy that he has to keep his wife happy on “his” birthday because he doesn’t wan to ruin his, “birthday deal” to which he refuses to reveal.   This sets off some competition between the two friends and another single friend over what his “birthday deal” is.  

In frustration of not learning what his “annual” birthday deal is the younger friend confides in his fiancé that his married friend has a birthday deal and that he wants one too.  The sexual reference is clear.  They even play on the “annual” through-out the episode and how that word sounds like another word.   So has the young couple is talking his fiancé decides the birthday deal is such a good idea that she should get one too.  To make things more complicated, she throws in, “nothing is off limits!”  Men get excited over this.  I made deals for years and never had a birthday deal but I thought this whole idea of “deals” within relationships was funny.  I’ve been there. 

This sets off a number of jokes where the married friend tells his younger friend that he is in big trouble and makes it clear, she may want to involve another party and it may not be a female…  He stresses what he thought was an extra special night of sex for him is now his undoing.  In the end she asks for something simple and sweet.   A morning foot massage, breakfast in bed with a flower, later he gets back in bed with her after doing housework… and watches “The Notebook”. 

I wanted to laugh at this but I didn’t.  See she said to him she wanted something she could only get once a year.  All I could think then was, “Um…. I did these things countless occasions and liked the Notebook quite a lot.”   I guess I’m a dumb ass. LOL  This was the only time I got annoyed, but not too much.  Mostly because I know will be making a woman someday soon a very happy lady. J 

Oh…. So as the younger couple is sitting on the couch taking turns finally revealing their wanted “Birthday Deal’s”  the guy says in relief, “That’s it?  No crazy sex fantasy?” To which she answers… “No, sex-wise you’re a guy I’m a girl, I can get anything I want any day of the year.”  Then it’s his turn.  He has to write down what wants and gives it to her on paper.  The name on one side, the description on the other side.  She reads it and answers… “Oh.. that’s not how I do it.”  Cute.   

As for the married guy’s birthday deal…  It was going back to the restaurant where he first had dinner with his wife.   The twist is…. She gets up to use the bathroom and he just so happens to need to go too.  He stops at the men’s room door and pauses.  He goes into the ladies room instead.  Cute.  

So how many of us have “Birthday Deals”?  And I wonder… how many of us have our birthday deal all year long?  That was mentioned by the way.    I think a healthy relationship has that birthday deal all along.  I know my other half had it and that is the way I operate.   If you are with me, you get the birthday deal all the time.  I’m time tested on this. LOL