OK, the question has to have crossed your mind... You are divorced.  You are a father.  How can you possibly be relevant?

Here is the lowdown...  I'm a great friend.  Good cook (and getting better), I'm handy with a hammer, I'm tech heavy and even play paintball.  I look at life through my own unique prism that for the most part is always positive.   Out on a date, shopping for groceries... with the boys (my kids) I have a habit of seeing things in a way that keeps it simple.  I poke fun at life and keep my kids and everyone around me on their toes.  You can count on me to be considerate of everyone, not just the people I'm with, but with everyone I come in contact with.  I'm even calm under pressure.  Well, I may not be exactly calm as I'm an idealist and I'd prefer that the world wasn't so tilted askew!  LOL... But I'm learning to be a compromisationalist!  When some dumb ass demands something ridiculous or I'm ignored... I look at the big picture and if I have to play along with ding-dongs... I go with the flow.   Most importantly I follow the advice of my father... "Son. Sometimes you gotta pick your battles."  And that I do. 

While I hate political correctness and can laugh at jokes about religion, status, nationality or ethnicity, I do not hold prejudices.  I simply think we should all be able to laugh at ourselves. 

While I enjoy being right quite often, I relish the moments I can learn from my mistakes and take a new path from where I may have once been wrong.  I'm always open to objectional viewpoints.

In my life I was a kid that took a lot of shit from other kids and spent a good portion of my youth fighting to understand my place in this world.  I stood up for myself while somehow observing others feelings along the way. 

For a good while I was really innocent about love even through marriage.  Infidelity has changed me and I must admit, while I'm not always in doubt of the people I'm with, I've learned anyone can be anyone when they are with you.  You really just don't know the people you care about.   Not everyone is like this of course, but that little doubt in the world has come to make me a much more guarded individual when it comes to my own emotions.

As for how I live...  Like my personality my lifestyle is a paradox.  I am simple yet love to do things big!    Now... what does that mean you say?  I think when I'm involved in something I'm committed and I concentrate well with focus.  If I join a team, I don't miss a game.  If I love someone... I don't hold back.  If I believe in something, I give it the commitment it deserves.

I believe in fate.  But I don't believe everyone plays the the same rules, so fate for you may be something someone else manufactured.  Be careful my friends.

I'm cool as cool just is, and I have a sense of fashion even if I can't afford to dress the way I truly desire.  I am image conscious to the degree that I do like things to look right or don't do it at all.  

I believe baseball is crap until steriods are removed from it.  I believe men and women raise children best when they are together.  I believe my mother and father got it right when they cared for me and I know when they are old and grey they'll be proud of all they've put into me.  Looking at how others in my life have abandoned parents... I can see how important family truly is. 

If I didn't make it obvious, my kids are the center of my Universe and they are damn good looking and cute!  They will both grow to be men that still want to spend time with their father because we are all just that close.  Having said that, I'm still free to love and be loved by others.   I can still spend my time alone too, from a day skating in Central Park to a day exploring the Mountains of Virginia or New York.   I have freedom to be my own man.

I'm cool at living, being fit and trim.  I like being involved in athletic activities especially with my kids and the more the merrier.  Last spring I even coached my son's little league team, something more that I believe made me a paradox. 

My mother raised me to never talk too much about myself with a woman present. "Always give her something more to learn" she would say.    For instance, for all you steady readers at my blog... Did you know I once played Semi-Pro Football?  Some of you know I used to sing in a band.  Yes a real band that played out, got some local radio air play and more.  I once worked on a cruise ship.  And did I mention I've even been married!  I wasn't always a full time father of two.  I was once a full time husband and full time father of two! LOL  Perhaps that is why I'm single again... I suppose the married life can be boring to some.  Knowing you have someone to come home to every night that will take care of you is too easy.    But with the right person... you can have a great friendship that really leads to better things. 

With all the energy and exuberance I bring to the table..  I still have plenty to share.  I've had a saying for years... "It never gets boring." 

Perhaps that is me in a nutshell.