You know, romance is a time sink. 

It is.  While it can be great fun to have someone make you feel good about being alive, why do we live for that feeling?  I'm glad to be alive period.  I used to think that the friendship and admiration a woman could bestow upon me was a big deal.    To what end does it serve? 

I've heard you have to 'work for love'.  Why?  Why does anyone have to meet up to expectations or work for affection and love?   Men and women are wired differently.  Men accept women for what they are or they do not.  Women, like men on the surface and quickly stir up the minutia of their paleolithic underpinnings of superficial desire by criticizing a man at every step for not being perfect in every category.

I've had a great life.  I've done a lot.  I had some great relationships, and not so great ones.    The relationships I've experienced help make me who I am now.  The value of what I am is a collection of my life experiences.   My ex wife used to condemn me for ever having dated before her.  I thought, "What the f?"  So I had to bury and forget every story of what I had gone through as it related to a woman.  I had to box up and crate all my past photos if they had an ex-girlfriend or girl 'friend' in them.   It was a strange demand, but I accepted it.  I accepted my ex-wife faults and all.  

Was it wrong of me?   Who knows.  But here is what I do know is 'right' now.  I may find romance again, and if I do, it will happen without pressure and I won't have to work for love.  Otherwise romance is a time ...   more »