Writers NOTE: I wrote this article when I used Match.com.  I'm done so I think I'm safe to give this advice. I've had this article pending the right time to publish it and now would be that time.

Ok, online dating sucks. It does and it doesn't.  Yes you get to meet a lot of new people.  But you also get limited attention, knee jerk decisions and it is ultimately impersonal.  You have no chance of having someone become attracted to you when they have a check list of things that filter you out of being eligible.  Aside from that it's great. LOL
Having said all this, allow me to offer up some help to the women from a man's perspective.  I will be harsh; this will help you to know the truth. 

The Kid Hypocrisy
First up, don't say you love your kids more than anything only to later state that you love babysitters or that you are happiest when your children go to bed.  If you don't see yourself as a hypocrite, a man will. You may be able to fool yourself but a man sees you for what you are.  Sure man are gullible and willing to look past flaws, but don't assume we are dumb asses just because we let these things slide.

The I’m independent but I need a man Hypocrisy
Nine out of ten profiles I read assert independence.  Yes of course you are independent and strong.  That is why you are divorced and looking for another man.  Ladies, I hate to break it to you but in just one month of online dating (I have not dated anyone yet, I’ve only e-mailed and talked on the phone) I’ve talked to A LOT of women.  All but one said they missed having someone to come home to.   All expressed that regret and sadness that they didn’t have someone at the end of the day to confide in.  Just like Diane Lane in the movie Must Love Dogs they talk about eating dinner over the sink if they don’t have kids.   Ladies, I’m not trying to be uncaring.  I am compassionate.  So please don’t think I have it in for you.  I mean this earnestly.  You can’t win a man over by being too tough for love.  You can’t.  You know something ladies, you may in fact be that strong.  You man indeed be independent and capable of handling life’s adversities, but to win a mans heart, you have to master the art of being feminine.   This means fake it if you don’t feel it.  Fake it until you do feel it.  Don’t tell a man you are independent.  We already know you are, that is why you are single.   If you were not independent, you’d be spoken for.   Throw that word out of your vocabulary while dating or courting.  Men don’t want to hear it.  In fact when I see it in a profile I really think hard before making contact.  I don’t need to break through defenses.  I want someone ready to come to the table as an equal.  What is worse here is that for each woman that had independent down in a profile was ultimately the most bitter about not finding romance.  Ladies, you can’t have this one both ways.  Oh, you can but you will never taste love at its sweetest. 

I'd like to send a message to the ding-dong's still playing EA Sports Madden on play stations.

I've learned you idiots are still harassing each other and still losing relationships with your wives, girlfriends and what have-you.  There is some disinformation going around too and frankly under normal circumstances I'd let you chase your tail but today I'm in a fighting mood.

I'm about tired of being pissed on and having my paraded ruined will I'm minding my on god damn business.  So here is what you need to know. 

Yes I pulled the plug on MaddenOnline.us.  The site didn't fail.  History is being re-written because I'm no around to remind you fools why I pulled the plug on the site.  That site was killed at the height of success.  Sorta.  I mean I paid for a dedicated server to run that site.  I supported you all for about a year while trying to build a proper revenue stream so the site would pay for itself.  After all you guys are cheap!  You pay for one video game a year and play it all year!  You don't go outside and get any sun for all I know.   The game is a time sink!  Get a life!

I pulled the plug after I the first quarter renewal of all your credit cards came due and 90% of your credit cards were declined!  That is off the charts for dead beats in any industry folks!   So I wasn't about to waste my time after year of hard work on so many guys that did nothing but complain and give nothing back to the community.

I walked away from the video game for a good reason.  It was NOT my life.  It was a F'n game guys.  It still is just a game.  ...   more »

This week a friend and neighbor died.   I’ve had some ups and downs over this.  To begin, she never told me she was ill and dying.  The day she died I didn’t know what to do.  I saw the paramedic van, but just couldn't bring myself to go to her house and inquire. 

Just two days before, Sandy had left her truck in the driveway running.  She said it was locked and she would have to wait until her husband got home with spare keys.  I stayed there a few minutes to talk to her trying to make sure for myself that she was alright.  Something didn’t seem right.  I tried to find a way to open the hood so I could perhaps kill the engine.   But then returning to speak to her, I had to ask her for certain, are you sure you locked yourself out?  Are you sure you are OK?   She said yes.  I went and checked all the doors and in fact the drivers door was unlocked.   I shut the truck off and handed her the keys.  She thanked me sincerely.

Something didn’t seem right. I couldn’t put my finger on it.

I checked on her again the next day. 

I really didn’t understand but something wasn’t right.  Just three months ago she was there for me and my kids and all this time I didn’t know she was dying.   At the funeral yesterday it was revealed that she knew for some time she would pass.   As I paid my last respects at her coffin, flowers were inside with the words, “Mommy” beneath them.  I just fell apart.  My lips couldn’t stiffen ...   more »