I'm curious... and I encourage you to reply/comment on this if you are married. Does your wife or husband make you pay for Health Insurance?  Specifically if your wife or husband has a health insurance plan at work and the family plan is $400 per month, does your spouse then make/insist you pay $200 of that fee each month?

The reason I ask is simple.  Mine does. She never asked me. Each month when family bills are due she has been good enough to take the lead on sending out checks for the mortgage, utility bill and others.  Some are in my name and we divide these costs up.  But one day when our life was not as harmonious I asked for a breakdown of what my lump sum check was going towards.   Of strange things I felt were not my business in paying, I did notice that I was paying half the health insurance that was deducted from her salary each month.

What bugs me about this is that my loving wife always plays the "be a man" card with me and expects me to do more than an equal share.  While she also insists that I only love her for her brains and character.  This is hard to accept.  This means I should pay for all meals if we go out, pay for large ticket items for her as gifts, such as trips, operations on her teeth, extended warranty plan on her car etc... And when I say the list goes on... it goes on.   This allows my wife to save and save and save.  In fact she bought an investment property last year.  I feel some resentment about this.  Not about the house she bought, but the fact that I'm mentally played to give and give and give and give while I can't remember the last time she ever spent more than $500.00 on me for anything.  Heck I think her limit has been under $200.00 for the 8 years we've been married.  And that was only on Christmas or Birthdays.  I've bought her skis, Ipod's etc... So when I'm asked to pay for half her company health insurance I get annoyed because if it were my company health insurance she'd be all over me to "be a man" and not extort money from her.

 So you tell me please.  In your own household on this ONE issue. Do you both split the health care plan by your spouse or does the one of you pay the whole thing and leave it at that? Please give me your opinion.