ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Lars Hindsley is a self-employed single full time father, a writer, a non conservative Republican, a reformed idealist (a compromisationalist), ex-musician, God fearing cynic that could more easily be described in two words as a "Rugged Intellectual".
Lars writings range from "how to" articles to commentaries and advice. You'll find movie reviews and video picks of the day side by side with serious writings.
Lars offers perspective from an Anglo-Christian moral position while never lording over anyone unlike himself. Lars is of the opinion that if you are going to complain, you should offer a solution. His perspective on the world is that many of us fight societal evolution to frustrating ends without a genuine understanding of what it is we are all up against.
Reading his articles should provide you with positive energy towards living out your day. You may not be able to change the world but you can navigate it to live a rich and rewarding life. Enjoy Lars’ works, there are years of writings to choose from.
I don't usually let on that I'm in a relationship because of privacy. For today, welcome to a bit of privileged information.
I'm in a healthy relationship. I've kept it under wraps a real long time. The lady I'm with is giving, she is normal, she is upbeat, content, , has great family values, loves children, makes sacrifices, loyal to a fault and very very smart. She is also divorced. BUT She doesn't bring any emotional baggage, not one iota. I can say that as it's been almost a year and I've even met her ex husband and there is no tension.
All of this is by no accident. Frankly, I wouldn't tolerate second best. Flat out. They say once bitten twice shy. You never understand it until it is you that is bitten. I've been bitten and I was twice shy. When I started to date again I ran into a number of types, from women that wanted to cut loose after divorce (wanted to experiment etc...) to women that had their own issues which I saw as bad omens based on what I had FINALLY learned in exiting my own long term ordeal. I just had no room to be a victim again. I have no toleration for bullshit is what it comes down to.
And guys (and girls) that is what I'm writing about today. I was reading a new article at askmen.com today while eating lunch and figured I had to weigh in as I often do. The article was about "the other man" or "an ex" or "a threat" in general. But for me I saw it as it applied to my life in my own past. Before I get to my own diatribe, I do encourage you to read the askmen.com article: Is He A Threat?... more»
A real man’s strength comes from within. ; Unless you find that one true friend for life, and even then you need to be her rock, you should have internal nerves of steel. A real man knows who he is. ; A real man is never run over by personalities around him. ; He doesn’t compromise his values to his boss, his girlfriend, wife or anyone. ; He knows what he stands for and who he is. ; You should be strong enough to let your woman do as she pleases and trust her to come back to your bed at the end of the day. ; If she does not, or you ever find she has cheated, you move on. You don’t let her affect the next person willing to love you better. ; A real man’s strength is not merely in muscle, but sharpness of senses. ; A real man follows his instincts. ; The signs of a real man’s strength vary, from brushing the dirt off a wound to brushing fowl words off your shoulder. ; A real man doesn’t have a chip on his shoulder, a real man knows for every situation he must adjust. ; A real man buries his vulnerabilities from everyone. ; No one should ever know your Achilles heel.
A real man is self-confident with high-self esteem. ; A real man believes in something greater than himself. ; Be it God, or other, but he knows the sun, moon and stars do not revolve around himself. ;He has no use for arrogance.
A real man is an expert listener. ; Wisdom can only be achieved by learning. ; You cannot learn without listening. ; You’ve heard the saying we are all geniuses as wise men until we open our mouth. The less you say the smarter you are, even if you only appear it. ; But in doing so, your listening will make you wiser.
Here are some links you will find inspiring, informative and truly worthwhile.
Guys... I've tried hard to find sites that are not about being bitter, argue needlessly about feminism and so forth. But the fact is wow! A lot of men's sites show how pissed off they are over feminism. I just don't need that in my life and neither do you. Sure read some of it and get a perspective but then get back to reality. A good woman will want equal rights for women, but won't ram it down your throat. She'll obviously feel her sex could be treated better, but she'll take great joy in cooking you dinner in the same way you enjoy cooking for her. In short a good woman will seamlessly be a part of your life.
You can't love women if you are busy arguing with them! LOL
So please don't feel as you review these links I'm full on endorsing them. I think they offer great insight as to why YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
Now while you are reviewing the links above, I found on one blog, these articles back-to-back. I couldn't help but think how so much in them is in me. The blog site is: The Men's View. You can see as you read these two posts, my point is made again and again. We ... more»
We hear about office romances more and more. Around Valentine's Day we celebrate it. However the reality is the rest of the year it's not so glamorous. From, post relationship favoritism, false sexual harrassment suits against men when relationships do not go well, to breaking up marriages, love at the office is not so loving and kind.
You can't point a finger at either sex. What you do find is that employers become enablers of affairs at work. There should be a standard among all employers to ensure good things stay good and bad things cannot take place. This problem is clear cut but nothing is ever done about it. No one takes this problem serious, but it is. It's just like women using mens bathrooms; a man would get arrested in a heartbeat for walking into a woman's public bathroom, but when women walk into a mens bathroom (like at sports stadiums) men simply laugh it off without the urge to dial 911. Oh... we all have this train of thought run through our head, but we do nothing. It is mainly because men know nothing will be done about it, and that we also are not as willing to to feign offense over the actual need to use a bathroom. It doesn't make it any more right for women to use the mens room. It is wrong, but we men accept it. We don't have to accept our lives being destroyed by reckless employers.
Employers are not doing enough with mere Love Contracts meant to protect the company. The video below is NBC piece featuring Love Contracts. Love contracts in the eyes of the people signing them become mini-marriages. The honeymoon is over after one lands in your lap. Read: Roses, Candy & Love Contracts.
Love at the office is not always love. Sometimes it's lust. This is where things become troublesome for the good people working for paycheck and not working to raise their social status... of course little do they know they are lowering their social status. In some cases your reputation or lack there of leads to poor performance reviews resulting in your own resentment for the company you work for. You then leave in shame and laughed at after you are gone.
Perhaps the mere concept or idea of hell hath no fury like a woman scorned (whatever that may be to her) means that for men, you should take the most clinical and military approach to resolving the issue of a bad office affair. Then of course there are women that actually give a damn about the man they have lost even if their misguided approach has good intentions. Of course you could wind up a married man in a bad relationship ready fall victim to a woman preying on married men. I don't condone cheating on your wife any more than I agree with women cheating on husbands but it seems that in this modern society, the tables have turned sharply. Men are now the weaker sex, we are the oppressed. I know ladies... you have a hard time stomaching this statement.
Employers don't seem to get it yet that consensual affairs or sex between employees is broader than the two involved. Example? Me. While my ex was in an extra marital affair with a co-worker, JP Morgan Chase considers that a consensual affair. They didn't get my consent! This was a married woman, in a contract with her husband. The company has a responsibility to all parties here, not just their specific employees. You have most likely read my position from time to time about adulterous women (yes it works both ways, I'm a man, I'm writing from my point of view). I'm a victim of divorce by adultery because of this very issue. And yes, I'd personally like to sue JP Morgan for not just prohibiting this, but enabling this workplace atmosphere. I do in fact see them as liable for the break-up of my marriage. If JP Morgan Chase Bank had established a true professional work place environment my marriage would be intact today. While I was being alerted to the affair by co-workers at one time, and the JP Morgan head of security was informative in many regards, this information came about "after the fact". The company needed to be proactive, not reactive. You would think they'd see they have their own interests to protect as one day a situation like my own may indeed become a class action law suit. I'll say no more on that. Employers would do well to read their own human resource surveys regarding work place romance such as this one.
As it stands now, the dirty little secret of large employers is that male and female alike see this problem but no one intends to fix it. Open conversations take place at the watercooler, at lunch, in car-pools and of course on web sites, Read: What is the #1 reason women cheat on their mate.
Perhaps the most scathing indictment that these problems occur at work came about from a small article written in Forbes back in 2006. It was originally just s single article titled: Careers and Marriage. Soon after Careers and Marriage was published it got legs and drew a lot of attention. Forbes did well to "cover their ass" and had another writer post a counter point article then quietly married them together as two articles under one title. The beauty of the web, nothing is permanent. By then it was too late, the cat was out of the bag.
What puzzles me to this day is that the REASON the article Careers and Marriage has impact is that it has an arsenal of background data to stand on. There is a foundation to the argument of "do not marry a career woman". Now of course not all career women will have affairs, but the point made here is that the odds SKYROCKET when a wife takes a corporate career path. There is no doubt that if a person is prone to cheating, the work place becomes their playground for selfish behavior. A feminist will argue this point saying men are "just as bad" and I won't debate men are just as guilty. However for many many years men came a long way in learning to observe the respect of women in the work place. Men are the weaker sex in this mental arena and when women open the door, men walk right through. I can't stress enough that the Careers and Marriage article in Forbes is based on a large foundation of sources such as:
I believe there is another factor no outlined in the Careers and Marriage article and that is the factor of a "practical woman". Women that think in practical terms disconnect from feelings or emotions most of us depend on to keep us grounded in a relationship. Practical women will look at men in practical terms while performing the ruse of love, knowing this is how the system works. Employers need practical minded employees but should be wary of the no-nonsense, practical woman. Ethics and morality is not part of their life and the employer too becomes a resource only to serve them.
Assuming for a fleeting moment that what we face is a wave of practical women operating under the radar within the corporate world, men face a difficult delehma in love. How can a man live within his lifetime commitment to women losing their souls in this material world?
It can't be by the same rules of someone that secretly is manipulating them for personal gain and selfish desires. There is only one way to do it. Mandate it. The corporate workplace needs to adopt the same mandates as the rest of the world, in fact their standards should be higher. Let's see if some strong minded, confident do-gooding lawyer or firm will ever step up.
YouTube "single fathers raising children", nothing. Google it, sales pitches and sob stories.
Here is the deal.
Ten years ago I won residency of my son. Won is a terrible term, if anyone "won" it was my son, but it came a price. His birth mother made wild claims like I wasn't his father (my son and I were then tested), she created jurisdiction disputes and of course more lies that meant time to heal when it was all through.
I have read more than I ever care to read on men being destroyed mentally after losing custody or residency of their children. It's hell, its a prison, is worse than any person can imagine. The possibility of it looms over your head and you can't eat, you can't sleep well and you essentially live in fear and fight off depression.
I am a lucky man. I know that. I have said time and again every parent should fight for their child, they'd appreciate them more. The act of them brushing their teeth, watching them play with siblings, watching them roll on the carpet with out a care in the world... becomes priceless.
When I fought for my son, it changed me to the core. I swore I'd make certain the courts would be proud of allowing me (that's right I felt honored to be allowed to be my son's father) to be my son's full time father.
I did everything in my power to learn every parenting skill needed. Not because of the courts, but because the experience taught me what I had. And even then, perhaps the experience of feeling I could loose what was most precious to me wasn't completely the reason I wanted to be the best father. I had my own childhood to correct. I ... more»
I get a lot of advice from people. But you know... it is advice after the fact. People often never want to get involved, don't want to testify against "old" friends or want to be responsible for affecting others lives because they don't want to "take sides" and the list goes on. It's funny how no one tells you anything until it's too late.
While I understand divorce and game playing can work two ways, the cards are stacked against men. They just are. I'm sorry, I'm not trying to come off as women bashing or anti-women. That is far far from the case. The problem currently is that we as a society want to protect women at every turn and a beauty and tears have a major impact on courts.
Read this story.... get into the third paragraph about this man and you will know the true pain of so many men in divorce. The percentages don't lie. Many many men don't look to marry for any other reason than to have a best friend for life. When a man like this marries a woman of "practical" means, he is in for a rude awakening one day.
The TWO stories below reflect the feelings of men everywhere. What you should draw from this article is the astounding parallels in every case. What is most striking is how these women "switch off". They decide they are out, and a lifetime if history with these men is meaningless. The only thing they have on their mind is "winning" and "destroying" the man they once loved. It's not pretty.
Read this reprinted article with care. I've found my own situation playing out in the lives of these other men discussed in the article below.
Sudden Divorce Syndrome Divorce may be the worst ... more»
The other day I e-mailed out a private article for a number of my readers. It dealt with divorce and custody on a number of levels. Over the past year I've found many men are like me. They are real men, yet they are involved fathers that in many cases take on the primary care-giver role like myself. Yet something happens... we find ourselves resented and cast aside by "practical" women that really had no sense getting married if they didn't understand what true love is in the first place. The only good news is that by divorcing us, you allow a good woman to take your place and appreciate a good man.
The bad news is it is a road that we men can almost never endure. So many men honestly... don't have a chance in court against a woman. Unless you have been in court before, unless you see the writing on the wall and take steps to protect yourself, or unless you just happen to be a man that performs all the primary care giver roles without question and plenty of proof of it.... Well, you end up like this man that replied to my e-mail article. I'll call him Nick. I asked for Nick's permission before posting his reply. See for yourself ladies and gentlemen, men like me are not alone. There are thousands of us out there. There are possibly a million.
Hi Lars,
Thanks for the article. I'm sorry to hear how bad it really was for you and your children and the sad truth of it is that I get you. I can understand totally how it could be. I lay awake at night for hours worried about the same sort of thing happening to me. Happily, at the moment, my ex is ... more»
This is a article about single fathers and the experience of divorce and custody. I share some of my experience for credibility as an expert in guidance, but I don't share the grusome details. What I discuss here is not a feminism issue, it's a system issue. It's not a male verses female issue. It's about the loss of joy. It's about the loss of joy you have in feeling needed.
Here is my backstory. I have two children. My eldest from a relationship where I was unmarried. I gained custody of him when he was two. That in itself should tell you a lot about me. He has lived with me since he was three months of age. When he was one and a half I married a woman from overseas. I brought her to this country. I married for love. We had a child after 6 years of marriage. At year 9 she filed for divorce and after divorce I learned it was due to multiple affairs by her. She hates me to this day. I forgave her a long time ago, but I'm careful of her (understated). I can say this because I know. FYI, my children do NOT see my blog.
This article is not like most of my articles. It is written in four parts. Unlike previous men's guide or men's help articles such as A Man's Guide to Divorce - A Man's Guide to Separation, This article will be a free form article covering many aspects of divorce and custody. All positive, and with NO disrespect to women. It is a realistic view on behalf of worth while men struggling to maintain their role as fathers.
Staying on this serious positive note here, I want to make this VERY clear ... more»
Today I'd like to discuss dining out in the dating process. Men, regardless of if you are contemporary or a traditionalist you need to know the basics. As to whether they apply to your date is a relative decision you should be savvy enough to know.
In the subject area of dining out (formal and fine dining), we are assuming this is at least a fine dining experience. This dinner logic means a location and etiquette you intend to impress your lady with. If you are wearing jeans or you both wandered in without planning, this article will bear little relevance.
First you should understand that in today's world women get to have their cake and eat it too. It's not your part to question this; it's your role to accept it whether you agree or not. Don't be stubborn or open this up to discussion with a lady. In short I'm offering that women have fought for equality to men, yet still expect chivalry. And frankly, you should always be willing to be chivalrous. Assuming she is an emotionally healthy woman she may demand you vote for a woman candidate because it’s time for woman in the Whitehouse, while justifiably expecting you pull out her chair so she may sit. Life is full of seemingly contradictory states of being but not everything is scientific and manners are a dying art.
Again I'm speaking of a dinner date, not a business lunch which is diametrical in rules. The rules are drastically different here. You'd insult a woman at a business lunch with much of these rules.I know… it’s just another one of life’s coded distal causes to man’s stress.
PLAN YOUR DINNER ENGAGEMENT
Plan ahead. With both your date and the restaurant. In terms of your date, does she loath seafood or love ... more»
Here is a tip to you men.Want to impress a lady with your cultured personality?Yes, this means you may need to develop a cultured personality.To do this it means you are open to new and different things.Sometimes it means subtle changes to the norm which show you are not like the average Joe.
Take the sandwich for instance.Do you really think something so simple can’t take on a bit of culture?And what is more, a subtle change to the sandwich may introduce you to a whole new world of taste.
Have you heard of open faced sandwiches?On a recent trip (not very recent) I learned of them. To sum them up succinctly, an open face sandwich has one, not two slices of bread, and they allow you to taste what is generally tucked inside.Your taste buds are prohibited from enjoying all they can!
Open faced sandwiches are common north western Europe in countries such as Norway and Holland.You can expect to find them in Paris to Vienna (Hot Antipasto, yum!). Some regional open faced sandwiches such as Mediterranean Open Faced Sandwich are hard to beat.There is also the one time Russian favorite, Butterbrot, featuring a grey rye bread.
Speaking of Rye bread, some are toasted and if you use a rye bread, but sure to heat it by toasting it a bit.This triggers the flavor of the seeded rye bread. Broiled open faced versions are delicious.
Another staple ingredient is the tomato.Gentlemen if you have not developed an appreciation for the tomato, you will come off as a “picky” eater to women.You DO NOT WANT this.Unless your ... more»
A friend I know just announced she is getting married. Upon learning this I of course congratulated her and told her I had some advice for her. But then someone arrived to break up the happy moment. We decided to discuss it later, but as I thought of it... since she reads my blog... I'm going to offer this advice to her and anyone considering marriage. Now before you say... "Lars you failed at marriage, who are you to give advice?" I argue that I did not fail. I certainly personally did not fail. I remained faithful and I was able to make a good go of it for 9 years despite what I had learned was someone that really wasn't in the marriage for love. And don't you dare call me bitter. I think love is a great thing. No... I know love is a great thing. While I had been bitter and everyone deserves that emotion for a period of time...I didn't remain bitter. So allow me now to share what I've learned and how you can do it right.
Before I dive in, I do have one more thing to add. I am writing a memoir for my children to read and pass on to their children one day, similar to what Shakespeare wrote with Polonius’ advice to his son Laertes. I hate to think of being gone from this world, but my legacy will be what I’ve experienced and learned and how I’ve lived this life. Much of what I’m about to share comes from a portion of my memoir. The things you read about how I learned from my own marriage… are omitted in the copy of my memoir. I don’t share anything with my children that can be perceived in the least bit of disrespect to their mothers.
WRITERS NOTE: Ladies, this article is not written to the female audience. Please don't try and understand men as God just made is different. Or as I'm known to quote often as Hi said in Raising Arizona.... "H.I. Junior cepts me as I am, I think ya just better had to!"
In today's society many of us men have the difficult duty of being not only a man, but father and/or husband. This means everything changes in regards to your male hormones and instincts.
Yes... I'm referring to that dreaded word... Domestication. :) LOL You could even call them... suburban values.
What is 'domestication"? For one, it is not the dumb ass metafictional guy following his wife around who doesn't know how to open a stroller. TV commercials may dumb us down with these type representations, but I assure you the domesticated man is not insulted by this title. The crux of the problem men have with the term “domestication” is the key word “taming” and the process an animal goes through to become domestic or more human.The intellectual male knows better. You can be civilized, dignified and cultured and still be wild at heart. The stereotype of the domestic man is evolving. It has evolved. Some even throw the term, “metrosexual” at men whom have a domesticated edge so to avoid the term “domestic”. A domesticated man may have an ego, but that confidence is relegated to days off when out playing paintball with the guys perhaps.This behavior is unrequited and women are not delirious for a man with these qualities despite their espousing that this characteristic in a man is priceless. Domestication is more than just a textured, cultured personality.It is certainly not just the fact you know what colors ... more»
What does it mean to be a single parent let alone a parent? Ultimately it means sacrifice. The life you once lived for your own wants and desires takes a back seat to the importance of your children.
Have you ever been to a store where a child comes off as annoying yet their own parent dotes on them? Or better yet the parent simply allows their child to go on being annoying without any real concern. Either way you only see an annoying child. But... when it is your child. Everything matters. They are your entire focus. The little things they do while you are waiting in line, matter. The words they say, the mannerisms they display. If you are a good parent, you pick up on all of it.
My children and I go everywhere together. Except for my specific days off as a full time father of two... I can tell you we are joined at the hip. We rely on each other for discussion. My children learn as I teach. I'm always getting questions that come from all over. "Dad... what is the longest pass ever made in a football game?" And yes... I'm expected to know the answer.
My little one's questions are easier because I've already been through it once before for the most part. But they never get any less important. The most amazing thing to me is how both of my children sponge up information. My youngest son exhibits everything you'd expect to have read in a book about younger siblings. He doesn't just "try" to keep up with his older brother... he expects to keep up. He keeps up.
Both my boys feed off each other for knowledge, entertainment and companionship. They both in turn, come to me for guidance, refereeing and thankfully... ... more»
Hello ladies... today I am posting something that may be good for a laugh... it may also help your marriage. It really is something I believe can be a great marital communciation tool. After all, how many of us complain that our spouse doesn't listen to us? Yet this article is more so for the men, as I created the Daily Husband Summary Report intially for my own life and being a man, I think this is something more men go through than are willing to admit. It's called a Daily Husband Summary Report. I developed this so that complaints in marriage didn't come without solutions.
Here is my take on life and it applies to marriage... If you complain about something, you should offer a solution, otherwise ...
I’ve found that with positive thinking, comes positive lifestyle changes.And these two feed on each other. To ensure a positive lifestyle, find like minded people. Life is a solo journey, but shared with people that affect and share in it in every way.
While the above is true, and the cycle between positive thinking and positive lifestyle changes are a good thing you can still have adversity in your life, that’s OK!We all do.What is important is to set the agenda.Give yourself a flight path and make it a routine long enough for the cycle of positive thinking and positive lifestyle changes to take a hold.
MY POINT OF VIEW
Here is my story.In my life I have read back on my own life journal or diary to years past and I see the word, “positive” mentioned time and again.I’ve come to learn that about myself.It wasn’t something I set out to do, but I have learned it is a part of me. I read a diary entry of my own that I wrote back in 1994 and I used the very word, “positive” about my outlook on life.That set in motion a lifestyle.
Now as the people around you affect you, for example read this article at WebMD about how Obesity is contagious, you have to choose a path in life that is good for you otherwise the people around you will affect your path. If it can happen with gaining and losing weight, it can happen other areas of your life too. It happened to me. My path was changed and my positive outlook was pushed deeper and deeper from my psyche. While I didn't ... more»
Life is amazing thing. It doesn't matter who you are, we all want that one friend that will make you feel like you can take on the world and win. That one person that when you come home at the end of the day will make you feel not just "alive" but 'ALIVE!"
But to have that person that makes you feel dynamite you have to be worth living for. You got to get out there and get em! Every day you gotta bounce out of that bed, you got to open you heart when love comes along and let it fall.
You gotta believe in love. It doesn't matter who you are. You can't be too tough for love. It's a treasure some of us don't get once in a lifetime. If it's love you want, you've got to be worthy of it. You can't be worthy of it if you don't open your heart to it. Love stands out you know... it's like a path full of sunlight. It's like a moon breaking off the grid for those in a mathmatical life, and it begins to sail across the starry night shining down directly on you while you dance in it's bright light amidst the darkness around you. Love is strong, stronger than hate, stronger than pride, stronger than bitterness and it offers hope to anyone that believes they don't have to be alone. But before you can love, you got to be worthy of it.
You have to be all the colors of the rainbow, you can't be just the darks, or the reds. You can't be just the blues either. You've got to offer it all, to get it all.
If you have any hope left, take a chance on love. You just step out on ... more»
THIS IS SERIOUS ROAD MAP TO HAPPINESS AFTER DIVORCE OR SEPARATION
This is a man’s guide to happiness after divorce.Women need not read one word of this as it is something that may cut at your very core. No, that doesn’t mean this is mean spirited. It is truly a man’s article for survival after divorce. There is NO woman bashing here, and although divorce requires separation ofa man and woman, this article is for men to understand your solution is NOT a woman.And only if you use my solution, will you be able to return one day to the dating scene and make a good woman part of your life again.Because the world is full of great women.You simply, and unfortunately are separated from one you didn’t belong with.And in time, you’ll learn how good it is for you to NOT have been with the woman you are now apart from. However I cannot be any more clear to you men, and Emerson seems to agree with me, "We must be our own, before we can be anothers."
Ah... the mere thought of it brings to mind historic acts of bravado and the demise of kingdoms. I've found these defintions:
a feeling of self-respect and personal worth
satisfaction with your achievements
the trait of being spurred on by a dislike of falling below your standards
unreasonable and inordinate self-esteem (personified as one of the deadly sins
The question is what is a man's pride worth? My pride based on my own personal beliefs and standing on those principals has been worth one hell of a lot in my lifetime. It places fools like me in the category of "idealist" at times. Today I write numbingly as a man that has gone through so much that has matured me that I've learned what a man's pride is worth.
But if I had to sum it up quickly I'd just say what my father always told me... "Son, you gotta pick your battles."
And that in itself tells me what a man's pride is worth. You can't put your pride above the greater good. You can't put your pride in front of things that will mean more to you later. You have to decide what your pride will cost you, and what your pride will earn you. You have to decide if your pride will ultimately undo you or something that means something to you.
This is hilarious! I got a spam e-mail today with the subject line: "Top 10 Mistakes Most Women Make with Men".But I think it makes some great points! I want to have some fun here. I'll show you the e-mail solicitation, and then I'll list my own top mistakes women make with men as I think ... more»
If you have been reading my blog for sometime, you know I'm a victim of abuse. I've done a lot of research specifically on the abuse men take from women. But what so many outsiders wonder is how can a man be abused? Well the answer is simple.
We men don't allow ourselves to be abused as women do. We ... more»
Most beginners play paintball in the woods.You've been invited to a birthday party or corporate event.This guide will truly help you, I guarantee it. Here is why. For the past three years I have played at a woods ball field and week after week I help first time players play comfortably, even excel.I am not a professional, but I play three times a month and I do also play speedball (air bunkers) at other fields, I can and will help you.Here is how...
Woodsball paintball the Great Equalizer
Before we begin understand that woods ball as it is called is the great equalizer.You can hang with great players and get away with being a beginner paintballer when playing in the woods.Why?Because of the trees, the branches and various unforeseeable objects that get in the way of shots.In some respects, you have the advantage because a seasoned player can’t play his game in the woods like he can on a speedball field.This is one reason Speedball paintball players are snobs towards playing in the woods.
What is blame-shifting?Blame-shifting is when you are clearly in the wrong and attempt to deflect the attention from yourself.In addition in the blame-shifter’s mind the fault of whatever they have done wrong, they somehow make it your fault.
I'm asking you now reader, don't let a blame-shifter succeed. Stick to your guns. Don't let them ... more»
A couple months ago I had been involved in a situation that called for me to research of abuse towards men. I searched, men abuse, husband abuse, abuse by women, mental abuse towards men, among others and found hardly anything. I couldn't find anything about men being abused. No real concrete information. Well, a friend e-mailed me a link the ... more»
Have you heard of the 5 stages of dying? Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Apply them to a relationship. The same can be said. The good news is there is a stage five, and if I can come up with a way for everyone to just jump to stage five, I'll do well in ... more»
I think love is a great thing. No... I know love is a great thing. While I had been bitter and everyone deserves that emotion for a period of time...I didn't remain bitter. So allow me now to share what I've learned and how you can do it right.