Life is about control.  We all want control over the world around us.  From the ability to pick up a fork and stab our food to put it in our mouth to knowing we can afford this months payments.   We want to control our destiny and ultimately we want to control our happiness.   If that is true, then our happiness comes down to one simple solution.  Choice. 

Happiness is a feeling we choose to feel.  Sure if you get an unsolicited kiss from someone you care about, that makes you feel happy.  I get that.  But take for instance a little league game my kids and I lost yesterday.  There were a lot of tears and lowered hats.   Believe me, I felt the disappointment too.  It was my second year in the exact same position.  But at the end of that game I had to put it in perspective and choose to be happy or sad.  That's right, I had the choice.  I could choose to exist in that sadness or choose to live in the better memories of what we were.   Kids have lessons in life to learn so we as adults have to learn to accept that children are not mature enough to grasp this.   But we adults have the ability to be happy within the circumstances we have.   If you don't like your circumstances, you work to change them and you can be happy along the way.  You make the journey your reward.   As for happiness... you enjoy it along the way and you enjoy when you reach your destination.    Ultimately it comes down to choice.   Happiness is a choice as much as it is a feeling.  I wake up on many cloudy days and choose to be happy.  And strangely enough... me and the boys may ...   more »