There are many sayings in life.  Some become hackneyed expressions, while others hold deep meaning.   One I've learned years ago has become one that came back to me time and again to teach me a lot about life.  That is the saying, your audience finds you.

I first heard it when I was the front for a local band.  I was making the rounds with radio stations pushing for airplay.  Who I heard it from, I can't remember.  It wasn't something profound when I first heard it.  It was just one of those... "Yeah you're right"  times of acknowledgment.  It could have been a disc jockey, but I think it was a fellow musician or perhaps a guitar tech.  I can't say for sure.  Who ever it was, it started with me explaining our bands sound.  I was defining how I sing, I was explaining we had two guitarists that traded off lead guitar solos and how that gave us more than one flavor.  Someone said to me to assure me that it didn't matter what we sounded like because... our audience would find us.  We didn't have to go find our audience.

Over the years I recall that analysis and observation about how the music industry works.  It applied to business.  Many folks had these crazy ideas for usable web sites, from gaming forums to odds bettors, and even bonsai tree enthusiasts.  I remembered to myself and assured people with their idea, "your audience will find you."

At one point I gave that advice to myself about love.  I realized that I was a unique guy.  I was tough and strong but genuinely sensitive, only I had to get to know you first.  That made it hard for me to get the right woman to strike up immediate ...   more »

I have some advice for people today.  Do not wait for revenge. 

This is a deep thought.  Think hard now.  How do you avoid revenge at its most early point?  Do not put yourself in a position that could lead to your downfall.

It's best I explain by example.  You need to start a business and the nature of it requires a partner.  That partner should be someone you trust.    You need to make a solid decision early on or you could run into trouble.  If you make a bad choice and they have an agenda that hurts you.  You may feel so burned that you want justice.  If you don't get it, you could resort to revenge. 

The essence of what is inside a person in today's world can be impossible to know.  Some people play a part of a caring person while their actions go against everything they say.  You should follow your instincts but many of us do not.  Have you seen the film There Will Be Blood?  The protagonist in this story  Daniel Plainview never stepped out of "character" as the demon inside him never cared for anyone but himself.  He kept his cards of who he really was impossibly close to his chest.   A person like this is one where you must merely follow your instincts.  Despite him never revealing to anyone his weaknesses or what he cared for (actually he let on to the false half-brother) everyone around him should have read his actions and not his words.  

That is my advice to you today.  Do not wait for revenge.  Always be beyond it.

How is this possible? Here is what I know.

What people do is far more important than what they say.  Look at me.   Many days here I say a lot but few if ...   more »