I’d like to revisit the term blame shifting or blame shifter as I’ve discussed it in past articles.   In an ongoing effort to reflect on the values of this era and to help others avoid victimization by a blame shifter; it is important I keep the concept of “blame shifting” forefront in your awareness.

What is a blame shifter?  A blame shifter is someone that does not accept responsibility for their own actions and portrays themselves as a victim in an effort to deflect the blame from them self and onto someone else.  This accomplishes two goals for the offender.  It absolves them of responsibility, and effectively makes someone else responsible.  A blame shifter will demand respect while giving you none. 

Now before you decide… “Come on Lars… blame shifting?”  I would contend that blame shifting has been around since the dawn of time.  Look at Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden.    What did Adam do?  He blamed Eve for taking his first bite from the forbidden fruit.  He blamed Eve for giving him the apple rather than answer to God, "Yes, I ate of the fobidden fruit."   So are you on board yet?  I hope so.  Oh... and by the way... it didn't work then either.  God made them both accountable for their actions.  Just thought I'd get that in as an aside. :)