Not knowing how to love is a source of contempt and resentment.   A person may want to love, but wanting is not enough.  It seems everyone in America that wants to drive a car, is allowed, but not everyone should get a license. 

I wrote a song once with a verse:

You don't have a license to lie
I won't believe you, why even try

It was about this type of logic.  Just because you can doesn't mean you should.

Think about it. People say cruel things in the context of honesty quite often.   I had someone in my life once that spoke to me in this manner.  They would always attempt to justify their cruelty (contempt) by saying, "...But it's true."  I could have in return blurted out a list of true yet hurtful words and did not.  Should I have?  Should I have been so called, "honest" and said, "No one has ever been as boring in bed as you." 

And while I wasn't accused of that fault or flaw myself, I had been exposed to a litany of cruel attacks. 

Let's break it down further.  Just because you can say something mean, does it mean you should?  Only if you feel contempt or have no respect for the person you are with. 

If you have a friend or lover like this, you are destined for a life of needless ridicule. 

Don't get me wrong, being told about things wrong with you isn't a bad thing.  You just need to come to that person with respect when doing so.  You can be direct too without being hurtful.  "Hey Joe, if this were me, I'd want someone to tell me, and you should know.  You may need to floss or something because your breath stinks." Or, "Kelly, we are really ...   more »