Today's message is one so many of us will learn from today.  Years ago I moved away from Delaware to Atlanta to get away from a poisonous woman.  I'm serious, she was trouble for anyone she came in touch with.  Good looking girl, which meant she could use her looks to deceive and manipulate.  This is never good.  So in the end, she caused enough trouble for me that I felt my best solution was to move away and start again.  I moved to Atlanta.  Now strange enough a good friend of mine named Vonda Fowler moved to Atlanta too.  A couple months later she and I bumped into each other in a Buckhead bar.  We soon got on the discussion of the woman I moved away from.  I explained to Vonda the woman I left said she wanted to be alone.  I went on telling Vonda when I left, I left no forwarding address and instructed my family never to say where I was. Vonda laughed, she said, "You know Lars there is s saying that fits here."  Of course I wanted to hear it, "What?" Vonda finished... "Be careful what you ask for, you may get it.  And she's getting it."  "Yeah." I answered with satisfaction.  I was so tired of being used and having my life used for someone else's poisonous agenda that it felt great to know that I was a man of action and to that someone that didn't think I was capable of doing such a strong and independent thing was now left in the dust.

I've learned that the affection someone gives you in a relationship is a gift.  When you reject it, they most likely never offer it again.  I hear from friends all the time, "my girlfriend is too needy"  I said ...   more »