I believe that relationships travel in directions.  They can travel in a positive direction or a negative direction.   Look at your own. Seriously...  Let's not look at Lars, this is not about me.  Think of yourself. 

Think of someone you are close to.  OK, got them in your head?  Are you in a positive or negative place?  If it is a good place then you are spiraling in a positive direction.  It's that simple.  But what if things are not so good.  When things are not in a good place, you have to fix it.  One or both of you must stop the negative spiral.   And the momentum of that negative may be great, or just somewhat.  The worse it is, the more effort you will need to take to stop that spiral from heading further and further down the chute.  Imagine, you are in a cone, you are spiraling down like a marble.  The further down you go, the harder it is to stop that momentum and there is less room to move and make things right.

Bummer eh?  But here is the good news. Because this analogy is so easy to follow, all you need to do is go forward on fixing your spiral.  And remember, when you do fix it, you have to nurture that positive spiral.  Good luck!  Knowing where you are in life is half the battle of knowing how to get where you want to be!

And remember my motto, "If you never quit, you get there."  It goes hand in hand with, "The journey is the reward."