When do you stop working for love? Is it work? I say this. We all must work for love. And how I mean that is that once you reach that goal of having someone fall in love with you, things have really only just begun yet so many of us actually give up at that point.
Love is hard word. It is so hard that after you are with someone for a long time it becomes very hard to say "I love you." and mean it with the same depth of feeling you first used it in.
Can you remember the first time you said "I love you" to someone special? Perhaps it is someone you are with now. Do you say I love you with passion or have you fallen in to the trappings of saying "I love you" with little or no emotion.
Love is something I've personally come to value. You may think, "
When I sang in a band I wrote a song called Hard To Get. In it I recall a verse that goes, Love is such a hard word, and hard words in my head. It takes a lot of real emotion to really grasp what love is all about. Love is about giving and never expecting anything in return. Love for me is about putting yourself in the person you love's shoes and really trying to give to them what they need to feel loved.
Understand them and try to give them what they feel they need to be loved. You can give them what you want. It must be what they want.
If you have a good love between you and the person you are in love with then you both are in that mutual surrender.
Let's look at love from an example, let's say this is a friend of mine...
I've been told by one person in particular that I'm too sensitive because I've shown my weaker side. For a woman to love a man he must always be strong and never display weakness by either letting down his guard or at worst showing tears. I suppose to that end I've misunderstood love. It doesn't take any effort to be cold hearted and to me that goes against the meaning of love. What I've learned in this case of love is that if that person wants love to be shown to them in that way, and if for example I really loved that person then I would then take on a harder exterior and less sensitive display of affection.
The point of my example above is that modern love is much harder than it is imagined in our minds. Women looking for princes are not even finding them on TV shows like the Bachelor. Men are not finding down to earth women even in churches or by searching the other side of the globe in cultures steeped in family values. All of us have raised the bar so high in a world of mediocrity that of course everyone is let down by love. No one can find it because we all have our own warped sense of what love is for us and then think the entire world doesn't get us and our viewpoint. Our logic is and reasons are being expected of others with no chance of change in ourselves, no chance of acceptance of the person we may have right in front of us.
