I mentioned in a recent article how would I live life different if I had it over. 

Haven't we all thought about things we wish had happened for us?  Have you wanted to erase something bad in your life?

When you think about it, so many things that you may have good have come from bad things.  To that end you would not want to undo them.  Children come to mind.  Some of us have great kids from bad relationships. You can't wish you never met that person can you?

When I was young I wanted to be a Rock Star and a Pro Football player.  I really did.  And in some ways I began to head towards those dreams but I started too late in each case. I learned in my mid twenties that "If you dream it, you can do it."  I began to believe in sayings such as, "If the risk is little, the reward is little."  Only in my mid twenties did I come to grips with my ability and anyone’s will to succeed.

When I was in my teens love was my top priority.  The love and sensitivity of a nurturing woman.  I hoped to find a woman that put me above all else.  I don't know about you, but I'd change that. I'm not being cynical when I state that was an unrealistic expectation in a woman.  I'd erase my desire for that kind of love and woman and replace it with a will to achieve my personal goals.  My desire for a woman blinded me to the key in unlocking happiness.  Had I concentrated on my career or lifestyle first, then the right woman would most likely availed herself for many easy reasons I need not illustrate.

Some of us speculate in specific things in our life that we changed, like getting caught shop lifting, cheating on a girlfriend, or even murder.  Those things are easy to identify with wanting to change. 

But what if you could change something even more drastic like your skin color or where you were born?  What if you could wish to be taller or thinner?

All those things point to something even greater like self-esteem or self confidence. And when it comes to those things that answer already is possible right now. 

I'm betting we all wish we believed in our self.  In my case I wish I believed in myself sooner.  If we all had this basic characteristic then we would all be better off.  We could have then left bad relationships when we needed to.  We would have waited and earned money instead of stealing.  So much is possible when you have a rock solid belief in yourself.

Sometimes we wish for things to have changed that we had no control over such as the death of a loved one or a natural disaster.  What if...

What if someone had not died?  What if someone had not moved away?  What if you had stayed? They make movies on this all the time. From movies about turning corners or going through doors, or wishing you were not born to time travel movies so you could mend the future from the past.

My brother took his life when I was 27.  He will never know my children; he will never meet my wife. Those are things I'll never know. 

For the most part, it is a good thing we don't dwell on the past.  If we did we could never face the day.  But sometimes, we wish we were not with someone we are with.  Sometimes we wish we took that job.  Sometimes we wished we had moved when we had the chance.  Sometimes we wish we could take back words we said. It is what makes us human.

I have two boys that mean so much to me it hurts.  When I see bad news on TV about what happened to someone’s child I almost run for my boys to hug them in appreciation for them being in my life.  To this end I could never want to change my past.  Everything in my life brought me to knowing them and having them in my life.

If I changed anything, I may not have the things I value most.  Can you say the same?  What would you change now knowing that had you changed anything something you hold now would be lost?

Only those of us with nothing to lose would change something for the better.